Let’s go hypothetical.
You are about 28 years old. Have a job on a path to a career. You are content with your life.
One day you go to a party and meet a person. You and the person hit it off and decide to go out on a date.
After your first date, you think you can envision a future with this person.
Yay for you! You found a person!
When do you start bringing up the “important” questions?
What do I mean by important things?
- political leaning
- where you want to live
- long term goals
I’m sure there are a bunch of other things, but you get the idea of what things I consider important, things that could impact a future relationship.
Do you talk about these things, future type things at the beginning of a relationship, when things are fresh? Do you risk losing the person because you are “moving too fast”?
Do you wait and risk being in love with someone, only to find out that you have irreconcilable differences on things that matter?
How do you know when it’s the right time to bring up tough subjects?
Do you just avoid discussing them?