The Book: Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty
The Quote: What was the actual benefit of accuracy when it comes to memories?
Did you ever here that old ditty “I remember it well?”. It’s basically a song about two people who have very different recollection of the last time they met…
Does it matter if our memories are accurate?
Is there no such thing as an accurate memory because each individual takes something from a moment that is unique because our perception is our reality?
The other day I was talking to my Husband about something. I related a story from years past- I reminded him of something he did to piss me off (I didn’t just dredge this up- it was germane to a discussion we were having at that moment and I was using it to prove a point- my anecdotal evidence so to speak).
He could not remember the story of which I spoke.
Not one shred of memory.
He did something that irked me so much that I know we had words about it (for the record it was a battle that I wanted to fight).
And he said he never did such a thing.
To be fair, his not remembering pissed me off more than the original transgression did. Because I remember it well…
At least I think I remember it well…
How much does my remembering something that my husband swears never happened matter in the grand scheme of things? I mean, this was something he did that hurt me emotionally- where I thought he violated my trust. And I never wanted him to do it again.
But if he doesn’t even remember doing it?
Should I be mad that he doesn’t have the same memory of the event that I have?
How do you proceed if people have different memories of an event?
Should you try not to bring up things from the past, because they just don’t matter?
I know….so many questions…
Pick one or two or all and share your thoughts: