I will totally admit that when the blogger told me that I wasn’t positive, it hurt me a little.
I said it.
However- I went pretty quickly from being hurt, to what Kim said the other day in a comment, which was roughly along the lines of: Who said that being positive was always a good thing?
But back to the original point- when people say things to you, they can hurt. Words can hurt. The trick is figuring out if they hurt because what was said was horrible, or if you think what the person said about you is true…
Do we really want to look our worst traits in the face?
We have a friend who talks a lot (and let me preface this by saying my Husband and I are champion talkers, and this guy makes us look like we are in the minor leagues) So one day the guy was saying how his son talks a lot. My husband and I laughed and we made some sort of apple/tree comparison, and our friend was stunned, I mean flabbergasted, that we thought he talked a lot, because he was 100% positive that he was quiet as a mouse… He was hurt by the realization that he was actually quite loquacious. And we didn’t mean to hurt him- we were just stating a fact…We thought there was no way this guy didn’t know he was a talker. We were wrong…
My positive/not positive thought process went as follows:
- Told I wasn’t positive
- Hurt and self doubt
- Thinking about what is positive
- Considering ways that I am positive
- Realizing how positivity can be a bad thing
- Accepting the fact that I am balanced
- Realizing that too much positivity is bad
- Taking the rainbow and unicorn sweater out of my Amazon cart
When/if someone has ever said something to you that hurt, how did you react? How did you handle the comment? What is your advice to someone who has been hurt by words?