A few months ago, I asked my husband what he was doing on a night about six weeks in the future. My husband said he was free. I said do you want to go to X on that day 17? He said sure. I bought tickets.
About two weeks before the event, my husband says-
“K just sent a reminder about doing something on day 17. We made these plans six months ago and I totally forgot.”
I looked at him quizzically, opened up my calendar, and said- You know that’s the day we are supposed to do X…
He stops, realizes his error, and says “I’ll call K to cancel.”
But on the road to cancelling, my husband finds out that out of the six people who were supposed to do something on that night, four people had already bailed. The only people left going were my husband and the organizer.
At this point I felt horrible. My husband had made these other plans way before I asked him to go to X. I knew the organizer of the other event really wanted to do this thing, and I couldn’t let my husband bail out on that. I told him to go to the event with K, and that I would find someone else to come to X with me.
Here are some discussion points:
- Should my husband do a better job of noting his plans? (he always double books things btw)
- Should my husband have cancelled the plans with the other person?
- Was I right by letting my husband out of his plans with me?
- Anything else?
What would you have done in this situation?
Have you ever double booked something and not been sure what to do? If so how did you handle it?
Pick anything you want and discuss!