Love is the quality of attention we pay to things.J. D. McClatchy, Love Speaks its Name as quoted in Conversations on Love by Natasha Lun
In her book, Lun states that sustaining of love is to create a space for simple moments and then to notice them. Seems so simple, right? But is it?
The incident Lun refers to is about cooking a meal with her partner- being present in the moment and just enjoying each others company. To be present with one’s partner…
What simple moments have you shared with a partner in the past? Do you recall those moments with a sense of peace? Are they pleasant memories?
It doesn’t have to be romantic love though. It can be love of a friend, love of a child. When I think about my closest friends, the thoughts that always pop into my mind are of simple moments of just being together, or talking about nothing. A few months ago we got into a day long text chain about staplers. One of my friends remarked that day that this is why she loved us: because we could spend an entire day talking about staplers. And now, when I see a stapler I think of my friends and the thoughts are happy- it’s about a silly conversation that just sort of captured all of us in a perfect moment of togetherness.
It’s your turn: Is love the quality of attention we pay to things?
Is love noticing the small moments that make up life?