Part of growing up is learning about disappointment and giving up grandiosity and not seeing yourself as the centre of the world. Because you’re the centre of your world but not the center of the world.Susie Orbach as quoted to Natasha Lunn in Conversations on Love
I know a lot of people who think they are the sun. We can even reach back to that infamous quote by Christina Yang to Meredith Grey (which really was quite unnecessary because there’s no character more self centered than Meredith Grey).
What do I mean by this?
I mean people who really think everything in life revolves around them.
Case in point:
I know someone who is about to start chemo treatments this week. While I understand that this person has faults, they are still older and starting chemo treatments. If anyone thinks this is an easy thing to go in for, at any age, I’ll ask you to go look into a mirror and see if you see a big yellow orb, or yourself…
Person going in for chemo. And their relative says about them: “I’m mad at them because they didn’t call my son and congratulate him for getting into his safety school. Why should I care about their treatment.”
FYI- the diagnosis and treatment option came on the same day as the college acceptance…
So I must ask the question:
While we most certainly must have self respect, and think about ourselves and what is happening to us, are their times when we can cut someone else a little slack, and if not put them first, can we at least think about them a little? Realize that they really might be going through a tough time?
How do we balance being the sun, while giving our family and friends and co workers a little bit of light every now and then? How do we arrange the boundaries?
How often do we really need to be the sun?