Say you have a friend. Your friend has a live in partner ( who we will refer to as Scissor) and they’ve been together at least five years. You really don’t like the Scissor. Scissor is not a bad person and they’re never hurt either you or your friend. You just find Scissor a little boring, a little too laid back, and when they come to your house for dinner, Scissor has never brought you flowers. To get a little cliché, scissor is not your cup of tea.
One day you decide that you don’t want Scissor to come to your house anymore. In fact, you don’t even want to meet them at a restaurant. You don’t want to have anything to do with Scissor. But you still want to have your friend in your life.
There’s the hypothetical. Now for the questions:
- Is it right to invite your friend to something but exclude their partner?
- Do you need a valid reason to not like someone?
- If you were in a committed relationship and your partner was specifically excluded (I get that there are sometimes showers that are all female and every male partner is excluded) what would you do?
- Have you ever excluded someone’s partner?
- What’s more important: maintaining a friendship or risk cutting them out?