Raise your hand if you have ever envied someone?
For the record, my hand is totally up in the air.
According to Oxford Languages, the definition of envy is:
A feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, or luck and desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attribute belonging to someone else
So yes, I have been envious of people carrying Hermes bags, or going on fantastic trips. However, while I might have a moment of wishing I were that person, I snap back into myself pretty quickly and realize that my life is pretty good, and really, I have everything that I want.
Of course, sometimes I see something that someone else has, and I really want it, but instead of being envious, I just figure out what I need to do to have whatever it is that I desire. I set a goal, make a plan, and just do it.
Someone I know won a writing contest- My thoughts were as follows:
- How awesome for the person
- I would love to win a writing contest
- I can’t win something I never enter
- I actually have to have a finished piece to enter into a contest
- Let me finish something and send it off
I then finished and sent something off. I did not win, but I somehow feel that I did indeed win by just putting the piece out there. I now regularly work on pieces to submit, and one day I will hopefully win a contest.
What is a better use of my energy: envying something good that happened to someone else, or doing something that would make me more fulfilled?
Our talking points for today are:
- How do you define envy?
- What is something you’ve envied about another?
- Is envy a “normal” emotion that most people feel?
- How easy is it to be consumed by envy?
- What is the difference between envy and jealousy?