A few months ago, someone asked me to unfollow them, and said they were unfollowing me because I wasn’t positive and they only surround themselves with positive people.

Fine. It’s a little doth protest too much for me, as was witnessed by a tirade they posted on another blog that was heavy on judgement and negativity…but…whatever…

So now that you have the backstory, I must ask:

What is positivity?

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Am I a positive person?

Well, I am a Met fan. Have been since I was old enough to know what baseball was. Of course it helps that my Dad was a Met fan and the Mets won the World Series in 1969, when I was five. My first memories as a Met fan was them winning a world series.

I had to hold onto that memory until 1986…

And I’m still holding on now…

Does being a Met fan make one positive?

Every year, I enter the season and expect that we will win the World Series. And every year, bar two, I have watched them falter. Yet I optimistically enter every April with dreams of a parade down lower Broadway…If that’s not positivity, then I don’t know what is…

However…

I will admit that I lean towards the pragmatic. I think that there has to be balance in life, and I think that sometimes you need to be realistic about things. Like when I was at the Met game last week and the score was 10-0 Mets, and I couldn’t help but wonder if that was enough runs to secure a victory…

I also have a little superstition in me, and I won’t talk about something till it’s a done deal, and I’m afraid to jinx the outcome…I’ve had things taken away at zero hour, and it’s not pleasant or fun…so I admit I can be cautiously optimistic…(again…I won’t talk about what place the Mets are in now, in June. I won’t talk about it till October…and even that’s a maybe)

Being a Met fan has shown me the highs as well as the lows. I’ve seen the unbelievable…Game 6….and I’ve watched them have a six game lead and blow it in September.

But every April…

So maybe I’m not totally positive…but I’m not totally negative either. I just look at what’s in front of me and look at all the sides that are there…and add in a little tiny dash of hope…

53 thoughts on “Positively a Met Fan”

  2. I don’t understand people who claim that any negativity is bad and that you should only say positive things. Sometimes a thing or an even is bad, straight up, and there just isn’t anything good to say about it. Trying to force positivity all the time in all things is not a positive thing in itself.

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  3. To me LA, you have always sounded like a “real” person, and real people have both a positive side and a negative side.

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  4. I LOVE THIS! Of course I’m a pragmatic somewhat cynical woman, but the same thing has happened to me, years ago. To this day I wonder how Little Miss Positivity is doing in her perfect world! Denial was her friend.

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  6. I don’t follow baseball to closely. But in my neck of the woods the most positive of all baseball fans are Cubs fans. Sad that my dad and grandma weren’t there to see them win the World Series.

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  7. The definition of a true Mets fan is one who is positive and optimistic, and picks themselves up and goes on even after the toughest losses.

    That is you ❤️

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  8. Every time I hear snippets of your unfollow-me-Karen story my heart breaks a little more. Seems like she was looking in the mirror!

    I have never found you to be negative. I love learning more about NYC, how many pairs of shoes or number of butter knives that you have…

    You do you…ignore the negative Nellies

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  9. Is anyone always positive? Is that even possible? I highly doubt it. You LA are real, with all the ups and downs that real people experience and display to others. I much prefer to live and interact with people who choose to embrace reality, rather than unrelatable fantasy.

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  10. Good question. I think most of us are a combination of positive, negative or somewhere in between. In turbulent times like the present, it’s easy to fluctuate. There are, however, some people who are constantly negative. LA you don’t fit into that category and it’s surprising to me that someone would read your blog and take away negativity from it. You pose questions, you aren’t judgmental.

    I remember I had to memorize this quote back in 7th grade…
    “If you can keep your wits about you while all others are losing theirs, and blaming you. . . . The world will be yours and everything in it, what’s more, you’ll be a man, my son.”
    Rudyard Kipling”

    Yes, the quote is sexist, (which I mentioned to my teacher long before I even knew what feminism was). But I still understood the concept. And that quote is one I think of quite often. “If you can keep your wits about you etc… I mentally changed the words in my head in 7th grade to “you’ll be mature rather than be a man”. But over the years to me it meant keep your cool! Stay positive and forge on. I think most of us do that. We can’t hide when bad things happen. We keep going. Hiding from reality helps no one.

    I think your love affair with the Mets is more about staying hopeful.. I’m a big Dolphin fan. They were a force to be reckoned with in my youth. Now each season I am always hopeful in rooting for my hometown team. They are the only football team in history to have had a perfect season. And every year I hope they keep that title and can make it to the super bowl again. Maybe it will happen again someday … maybe not. But I keep hoping.

    Nope, you can’t run away from reality. I truly believe I’m still alive because I have a positive attitude about fighting cancer. But I don’t stick my head in the sand either. Life is about handling things the best way you can. Sometimes we are thrown curveballs or get knocked down. But as long as we keep getting up we are doing great. So yes, I agree with you. Face life with a little dash of hope and keep smiling.
    AND LA, keep asking us questions. ❤️✌️

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    1. Well, we can always change man to woman, because it’s clearly a great quote!! Reality is right there in front of us, and we need to just see it for what it is, and work accordingly

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  11. I believe it helps to generally always focus on the positive. But there are times when something must be acknowledged or one just needs to move on away from something negative. That said. Go Cards! (St. Louis Cardinals) Opening Day is a holiday here.

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  13. Love your last few lines, sums it up well! I have never thought of you as a negative person, and I am pretty sure that the real reason behind the person asking you to unfollow you has a lot mroe to do with you than it does with you!
    Keep smiling and being yourself, and thanks for all the smiles that you bring to your readers! Thanks for being real! ❤

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  14. Wonder whether anyone can be positive all the time. Also wonder whether I’d be able to tolerate such a determinedly positive person.
    I like you as you are. 👍

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  15. Being a Baltimoron, I prefer to not speak about sports in 1969 (Baseball & Football). I am not going to stop following you because of the Mets Fan thingy. My brother-in-laws are all Met fans. “Negative Nancy’s” are best ignored. Everyone has good days, bad days and good thoughts, bad thoughts. No one can always be postive but there are plenty of always negative people. Those are toxic and I ginore them. Many a friend and family member are no longer “friends” on FB…..

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  19. In situations like this, I feel the “you do you” saying is best. I don’t find you overtly one way or the other. But asking that you unfollow them? That’s a little narcissistic isn’t? Not attacking this person but why does that matter? Anyway I’m always in a positive or thoughtful mood when I read your blog.

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  21. I love your attitude! You are the real deal….. I’m not sure what that person was smok’n but you are not a negative person. I don’t care to read whiny, grumbling blog posts either…. life is too short. You are a breath of fresh air in the blog-o-sphere. DM

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  22. I think you are both positive and pragmatic. Sometimes people conflate positivity with not speaking our truth. I think this is false positivity, and doesn’t agree with me. We can speak our truth, be real, and still be a positive person.

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  24. Ha ha! I’m the same way with my rugby team. I was taken to watch them by my ex, while secretly liking the look of another side. But they won my heart, and I’ve stayed with them ever since. Known as a cup side (without the consistency to win the big prize) they finally won the big prize 10 years ago, and repeated that last year – against all the odds. They’re up again with a chance this year and I’m trying to remain pragmatic, while nursing that little flame of hope.

    I describe myself as a pragmatic optimist, I’ve always thought of you likewise.

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