I tend to go to movies by myself.

Some people find this odd.

When I go to see a film by myself, I am totally absorbed into the film…I can sit exactly where I want…I can see whatever film I like no compromises… I feel that a movie is the one place I don’t need anyone to make conversation. The movie is on- there is no talking.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t go with other people- yesterday I saw a movie with a friend and I was glad I did because it was a movie that required a post movie discussion.

Going to the movies by myself is my number one self date…

Are there any things that you do by yourself that others may think that it’s odd to do solo?

What are your favorite self dates?

Are there things that you only like to do with others?

Discuss:

127 thoughts on “All By Myself

  1. I love doing stuff with my hubby but, if he’s not available, I’m more than happy to go by myself, including to the cinema or a concert or football match, or a meal. I much prefer shopping for clothes and shoes on my own, so much quicker!

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      1. Funny thing is, my ex boyfriend, who is still me best friend, wanted to open a shoe store. But the reasons were strange, as I found later. He had a foot fetish. He loved beautiful toes. I know. Ok.

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  2. I usually go to the movies alone, partly because I often go at weird times when my friends can’t go (Tuesday nights after 9pm isn’t doable for most people I know), and partly because when I do go to the movies, it’s often to a weird one that other people don’t want to see. I often go to restaurants and coffee shops alone, too. I vacation alone. If someone else thinks that’s weird, that’s their problem, not mine.

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    1. I have some movie friends who enjoy the same stuff as me, like this week I saw an indie with a friend, but sometimes I don’t want to see who’s available…I just want to go

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      1. I saw After Yang the other day, with a friend who likes the same movies as me. I don’t know anyone else who would voluntarily see that. Normally it’s the type of film I’d see alone

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  3. Museums, theater, some concerts, specific vacations where I just want thinking time rather than lots of outings, I’d also rather shop by myself- especially bookstores. I have come to understand I really enjoy myself alone.

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    1. Yes! I love wandering around antique malls by myself. It’s just not as much fun if I go with other people. I always feel very mission oriented when I go with other people, but when I’m by myself, I can just wander and wander.

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  4. I don’t know that I have any place I ‘have’ to go alone – except maybe clothes shopping because I hate clothes shopping. However, I’m comfortable doing most anything with or without others. Sometimes one more than the other, but still comfortable with my own company and/or surrounded by others!

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  5. That’s awesome that you go it alone for a movie. Honestly, the only movie I watched alone at the theatre was the final Twilight movie: Breaking Dawn. The only activity I do alone is book shopping.

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  6. I love to sit outside in my backyard…sharing my “alone” time with the birds, squirrels and bunnies. That is also good prayer time.

    I also enjoy listening to music alone, so I can sing REALLY loud and dance any move I choose😆

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  7. I don’t want to spend the money on the movies when I know in a few months I can watch them in the comfort of my own living room. I’d much prefer strolling through Michaels and Barnes and Noble. While my daughters will sometimes come with me, sometimes I’d rather go by myself. I call it my artist dates.

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  8. I don’t think it’s weird at all- I wish it was something I had the courage to do sometimes, cos a lot of the time my friends don’t want to see the same movies in the cinema as me. I’ve been trying to psych myself up to going to movies on my own for ages 😅

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  9. My husband’s not big on travel, so when I felt the call (pre-Covid), I would happily plan trips alone–long or short, domestic or international. I like being able to decide exactly how I will spend my days and what restaurants I want to try.

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  10. I like to walk by myself accompanied only by my favorite music. That way if I decide to stop or continue on I can set my own goals. I like shopping and browsing bookstores alone.
    I don’t like going to the movies alone. I feel unsafe. Perhaps it’s south Florida, but there are always gangs of kids hanging out at movie theaters and they look and act like they are the Jets and the Sharks ready to rumble. (West Side Story reference) so it makes me uncomfortable.
    I prefer not to eat alone, but I don’t really mind it.
    I’ve always been comfortable being by myself but as I’ve gotten older I have found that seniors down here have been targeted. So it sometimes restricts certain things I do. Plus, now that I’m in cancer treatment I just don’t feel I have the same physical strength to kick butt any more. This may sound paranoid but there is a large “mature “ population in Florida and even our over 55 communities are under constant surveillance. Unfortunately, The violence in South Florida has risen by leaps and bounds.

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  11. I love to go to the film forum by myself!! I also go to concerts solo. People think thats weird…but….I like to be close to the stage and most people don’t like to pony up for the cost! I am not a fan of eating by myself….only because there always seems to be some creeper milling around. I will bring my laptop and pretend to work if I absolutely have to do it.

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  12. You’re speaking my language! Most of my adult life, I’ve gone to the movies by myself and never thought twice about it. People used to tell me that was odd too, but I never understood why. When I was married to my first wife and the kids were young, it was a great escape. When I was single and unemployed, it was something to do, an excellent diversion. In any case, you can watch whatever YOU want without judgment. I’m definitely all for it.

    I don’t go to the movies that much at all anymore, but I’m into solo hiking. I don’t like worrying about other people when I’d rather just focus on nature, you know?

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      1. Yes I do. It was time for me to think alone. But my husband is so excited to walk with me, I can’t tell him no. I guess my alone time will be swimming laps at the YMCA while he’s working.

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  13. Mine is this used book store called Three Told Tails, and they have 5 cats that roam the bookstore. There are little stools here and there and the place packed with all sorts of books. It’s somewhat organized, but I swear they will purposely put a classic randomly in a section to keep people looking more. Or maybe it’s the cats. And the mellow music. THAT is my date day!

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  14. Going alone to a coffee shop, quaint is a good way to treat myself or a bookstore. I went overseas alone many times which forced me to be more assertive. I did not like eating alone in the Middle East.

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      1. I agree. That’s a real treat. My husband passed in 2010 and while I mourned and missed him it wasn’t difficult to learn to be alone. I think most women are pretty resourceful and independent. And while I don’t go to movies alone, with so many films available on line, even the academy award nominations, I can watch them at home. Chick flicks, however, are more fun to see with gal pals and then discuss over lunch or dinner.

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  15. I don’t mind going anywhere/doing anything by myself: movie, concert, play, party. Once when my son was a teenager, he commented on my going somewhere alone because my husband couldn’t go. He said, “You really are a loner, aren’t you?”

    “Yes, I always have been.”

    “Then why do you have dad and me?”

    “Some days I ask myself the same question.”

    In the highest form of teenage compliment he punched my shoulder and said, “Good one, Mom.” 🙂

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  16. I like to do things by myself. I like going to a coffee shoppe alone and used to like to have lunch alone as well occasionally. I prefer to grocery shop alone as well. I haven’t been to see a film in a long time (I’d prefer to watch from the comfort of the sofa at home), but good for you LA! 🙂

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  17. They still making movies? I mean for theatrical release? For me, even pre-pestilence I found most scripts where composed to fit the 50 inch screen. Like a tie game in baseball last year…a runner was placed on second base…a plot device to keep interest, and speed the resolution. To your question..I enjoy going to baseball games alone.

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    1. I don’t like watching movies on a tv screen…first off…I never pay close enough attention because I’m too distracted by everything in the house, plus my thoughts wander. When I’m in the theater I am completely absorbed. I’ve never been to a ball game alone though. If it weren’t for the 45 minutes on the 7 train I’d probably do it.

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  18. I have to go clothes shopping by myself. I won’t try on stuff if someone is with me. I also recently discovered that I enjoy going to the beach by myself (I’m only 20 minutes away).

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  19. I’m perfectly happy doing most things alone. Himself, not so much. The gender norm would be the other way round. Turning 50 was the time when I got comfortable being by myself doing the things I loved or which interested me and I still won’t share some experiences with the wrong people (like a gallery or a meditative walk).

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  20. Hit submit too soon! What I meant to add is that society is very uncomfortable with women doing thing by themselves. There still seems to be too many who view that a woman alone = shamed spinster or shameless hussy. Keep doing what you love to do alone say I!

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  21. It would be considered strange to go to the movies by yourself here in my small city, but your reasons for going on your own are all valid ones. I like to clothes shop on my own, but can with other people if it’s a day’s outing, to a faraway mall, but they usually insist on going to stores I’m not interested in.

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    1. That’s always part of the problem…people have different taste. I know I can go to container store with my friend M, but I would never go to Barnes with her

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      1. LA, I just finished The Christie Affair and loved it – good plot, well-written, suspenseful….I’m kind of in awe how she threaded the stories together to make sense. Then last night I started The Paris Apartment – the crude language in the opening sentence was enough to turn me off, but maybe younger people/writer’s talk like that. I think maybe I’m too old a demographic for her books…..I found that a bit with the one about the Ireland wedding. Plus the chapters are super short. Only about twenty pages in and I’m not too excited.

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      2. Christie is on my list. I didn’t love the protagonist of paris…she was bland and I’ll formed and didn’t have enough to either make me root for her or hate her…she was just sort of there…I liked the wedding one better

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  22. I will occasionally go for a hike by myself- it’s much more peaceful than going with others and I can be alone with my thoughts. At the same time, hiking with others is a great opportunity for deep conversation. Just depends what I’m in the mood for!

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  23. I prefer a mani/pedi & massage to the movie self-care, but I too like to go alone on occasion. I remember the first time I did it… I was home from college, supposed to be looking for a job, but instead I was watching my most favourite novel on screen “The Count of Monte Cristo”. To this day I don’t regret it. 😊

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