The Book- Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty
The Quote- That was the secret of a happy marriage: step away from the rage.
Is the secret to a happy marriage to simply take a step back sometimes?
When my daughter was home for break my Husband did/said something stupid. My daughter asked why I didn’t say something to him. I replied:
“In marriage, as in parenting, sometimes you need to take a step back from the stupid. You have to choose your battles, and decide if the battle is the one to take a stand on.”
First off- which quote is better- mine or the one from the book?
Secondly, is the secret to life not 42, but is it really just stepping back?
The people we are closest to are going to annoy us at least once a day. No two people get along perfectly 24/7/365- I know this for a fact because we just had a situation where people were together 24/7/365, and there was a lot of anger and sadness or for the sake of this piece, rage…
Do we need to harp on them every time they don’t load the dishwasher correctly, or they leave their shoes in the hallway? Annoyed because they are wearing an old concert T shirt that is 20 years old and has no arm pits anymore? Disgruntled because they don’t want to watch the same TV show?
If you have a partner, or a child living with you, how often do you point out their mistakes? Or what are mistakes in your eyes?
For homework, I want you to count how many times you nag your partner/child and why.
How many of these things are life threatening? How many of these things needed to be mentioned, and how many of them could have been stepped away from?
Do you step away more than you engage? How does it work for you?