Forgive.
Forgive.
Forgive.
Some people errantly think that forgiving shows weakness, that it lets the offender off the hook for whatever the misdeed was.
The people that think that way are quite misguided.
We forgive others so that we can get on with our lives. We forgive because holding on to the anger is stagnating.
If someone wronged you, and you hold on to that hurt, they still have power over you. Why do you want someone else to continue to have power over you?
I get that some things are unforgivable- that some wrongs are so egregious that you can’t for one second think about forgiving. And I’m not saying that you have to go up to that person and shake their hand and then have a coffee. You don’t ever have to tell the person that you forgive them. You can keep that forgiveness a secret between your head and your heart. I’m saying that in your heart you should just remember that what’s done is really done, and all the hostility that you’re holding in your heart should be pushed away to make room for something better, something that will make you more whole than you are right now.
There’s a statute of limitations on how long you can blame someone else. Ask yourself if you are living the best life that you can, or if you are letting the actions of others drag you down. Does it really make you feel better to blame someone else?
Forgive.
It’s for you.
Allow yourself to let it go and move on.
Waking up on the Wrong Side of 50 
Very true! I had to let childhood trauma go. You can’t continue to hold on and blame your parents. After years of doing that you’ll see it literally got you nowhere. Find peace and don’t make the same mistakes as them. Find new ones to make! LOL
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Make peace with yourself. Exactly
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You said it all so well. It is a good reminder for all of us, but I bet at least one of your readers will find it life changing.
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Hoping someone sees the light
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I’ve got a bad memory, so sometimes it seems people like to remind me of things in my past is the reason I’m the way I am, and I am weak for dismissing it. Uh ??? Which I don’t like, because then I start remembering, and blame the person who brought it up. Why do people do that? There are some things I guess I don’t forgive, but I don’t really think that’s it. I think it’s more I don’t trust certain things with certain people just because of something that happened. Nobody, I think, doesn’t like forgiveness. It’s sometimes hard to see the flip side sometimes, but I try.
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My father recently brought up a memory that was painful for my sister in law, and he thought it was funny. Just clueless
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Amen!!!
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Very Good advice. I can usually forgive quite easily and I don’t tend to hold a grudge. However, I admit there are a couple of people who can still irk me. The fortunate thing is if I am angry at someone once I get it out, (cry, clean the kitchen, write something), whatever it takes, I can then let the anger or hurt go. You are correct, to fail to forgive others, only hurts ourselves.
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Well, I think we all have people who irk us. But it’s all about moving forward and not festering too much
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Absolutely.
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Profoundly accurate words, and still a work in progress for me with 1 individual that I gave 34 years of my life to. Just this morning in fact…another moment that has clouded my entire day and I knew not to delve where I did so yes, forgiving and letting go is absolutely necessary.
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I’m betting we all struggle with this to a certain degree. But we just keep trying
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Absolutely perfect! And sometimes the hardest forgiveness is for self
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Completely. We need to forgive ourselves!
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Forgiving others is difficult. Forgiving myself is even harder. But I find the harder it is to forgive the more impactful the release is when I finally succeed. Forgiveness is the kindest gift we can give to ourselves. Thanks for sharing!
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You are so right!
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Some of the best advice one can get!
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💗
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A life lesson: focus, sometimes less is more. Focus on one thing at a time. Or one person.
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Very true
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Oh man is that a lesson I need to learn in a hurry. I so struggle with issues I have with my sister, especially now that mom is gone. I’m actually doing better than I thought I could but it’s not easy.
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I have faith that you will figure it all out. Sending hugs!
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Your words are wise, but it’s easier said than done. I applaud you for being able to forgive.
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Well, I’m not that virtuous…I still have my moments….
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Yes. I’ve been taught “forgiveness is a decision.” It’s okay to feel hurt but forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion. Choose to forgive.
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💗💗
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Amen to that! ❤
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Beautifully true, and so well expressed and written, LA. Forgiveness is power and great healing. Love this post. ❤️
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Thank you!!
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Good words!
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Thank you!
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Forgiveness is so freeing!
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100%
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Yes, it’s true. But will you ever forgive the person you cut out of your life? If it’s any consolation, I’m now trying to decide if I should cut the same person out of my life for a second time because she did something else I may consider to be unforgivable.
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Yes. They’re the ones you forgive first because they have the most power over you
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