We are once again circling the post where I was mad at my daughter for choosing a middle of the night train arrival. In my original post, I said that as I was paying for the ticket, I could tell her to switch the time to an earlier arrival.
Some people agreed that this was well within my right because I was paying. Others said it didn’t matter who was paying, she is an adult and should be treated as such.
So with that in mind…
If a parent is paying for college of their 18+ child, does the parent have the right to tell them what school to attend, or does the adult child still have the right to decide?
Personally, I think the child has the right to choose the college that is best for them. Yet, I also get that some schools are more expensive than others, and there are financial considerations to consider. I consider the college question one that should be decided jointly between the two parties- with both sides being honest and open.
But at the end of the day- who wins?
Does the person paying for college have the right to have a greater share of the vote?
I agreed with my daughter that her particular university was perfect for her. But as she was accepted into two schools that were “higher ranked or known”, I did wonder if going to a bigger “name” was more important. She also received very large merit scholarships to two very good institutions- should she take the money and run? But in the end, we let her choose. And we have not regretted that decision.
Does the person paying have the biggest say in the decision.