I’ve been wondering how to navigate the relationship between my daughter and I as she forges on into adulthood.
As luck would have it, I know someone whose Mom came up to town from Florida last week. As I watched their dynamic, I knew that I had the basis that I needed to start creating a better relationship with my own daughter…
- When you arrive at your daughter’s house, get mad that your daughter was working when you got there. Tell her explicitly that she should have been at the front door waiting with literal open arms.
- Complain, again, about the “no shoe’s in the house policy” that your daughter has. Repeatedly scoff at the suggestion of house slippers, because house slippers are stupid.
- Complain that your grandchildren are at school. What’s more important after all- algebra II or being there for your grandmother
- Remind your daughter all the things you did for her while she was growing up
- Tell your daughter that she doesn’t treat you with respect
- Cry that she treated her own mother so much better and she wants you to treat her as she treated her Mom
- start yelling at your daughter because your daughter doesn’t cater to your every whim
- Tell your daughter that she’s a despicable spoiled brat
- Call your son and tell him that she can’t stand his sister and she has to leave that very moment because she can’t spend another minute in the house
- Curse at your son because he dares to say that he will call her a car service- a good son would rent a car and drive over and pick up his Mother
- Remind both your children that they don’t respect you
- Tell your children about how you worked to support them and without her you would have nothing
- Spend so much time talking about a gift that you gave, that the daughter hands you a check for the amount of the gift because no gift is worth it being thrown back in your face a million times
- Ask why they treat their Father, her ex, so much better than they treat her, because he was despicable.
- Give a birthday toast that doesn’t say anything about your daughter, but tells all the sacrifices that you made for your children
Do you understand why this example showed me exactly how to further my relationship with my daughter?
What would we do without them…