Did you ever say something, or do something, that you regret?
I’m reading a book right now- “Before the Coffee Gets Cold” by Toshikazu Kawaguchi (in translation). The premise of the book is that there is a cafe in Japan. You can go into the cafe and sit in a specific chair and you can go back in time. There are a few rules for the time travelers, and the one thing that is made very clear is that you can go back to a moment, but it WILL NOT CHANGE THE PRESENT. You can’t go back and give someone who died from COVID a vaccination, etc.
Hold that thought.
My biggest problem with the whole concept of regret is that I wouldn’t want to change anything I did in the past because every moment led up to my daughter, and there is not a thing I would do to change that. I love my daughter for exactly who she is, and I would never mess with the perfectly unperfect young woman that she is, nor our perfectly imperfect relationship.
But even having said this, I still wonder if there are moments I could go back to so I could have one more chance at a conversation with someone.
Are there regrets that we carry in our hearts that we never quite get past? Are there things that we’ve done that we carry the scars of forever?
Do you have a moment in your life that you keep replaying over and over again?
If you had the chance to relive ONE MOMENT, knowing that nothing changes in the present…
Would you go back in time to that one moment?
Would you say “I Love You” one more time?
Would you tell someone how much they hurt you?
Would you apologize for the hurt that you caused?
Would you sit in that specific chair in a coffee shop in Japan, go back in time, and rewrite that one particular regret?
My original thoughts for today’s post was “How do we get past regret”, but since I jotted those words in my planner I have come to realize that there is no getting past anything. We hold onto all the moments of our lives, even if we don’t consciously realize that we are doing it. We never get over something, we just, hopefully, move forward. But as I’m reading this book, I wonder if being able to communicate just one thing would make us feel, I don’t know, better? Would having the ability to say one thing bring us a sense of closure? Of peace?
Could reliving one moment in time really make you feel better?
On a practical note, it has taken be longer to write this post than any post I have ever written…I guess this is a concept that I struggle with on many levels, and I’m not sure how to bring it up for discussion, or where to go with it. Part of me regrets even trying to write about it…
I wrote about it…
When I open up my coffee shop, would you be curious to relive one moment? Or is the past the past?