A few months ago I had to make a vestibular therapy appointment. At the place where I was supposed to go, I could not make the appointment via an online booking app: I needed to actually talk to a scheduler.
So the scheduler tells me that I am going to see “Jane Doe”.
So, as it’s now what we are supposed to do, I ask the scheduler what pronouns “Jane Doe” uses.
Scheduler had absolutely no idea what pronouns “Jane Doe” uses. Scheduler said she thinks female, but really isn’t sure.
I get to clinic for my appointment. There are a billion signs up which speak to pronoun usage. I mean they are everywhere.
I had to fill our paperwork. No where on the paperwork does it state what pronouns you would like the facility to use. There is no call me he or she or they option.
Scheduler doesn’t know preferred pronouns of providers.
There is no place to formally state your preference of how you want to be referred to.
I can’t help but ask…
If we don’t follow suit on ALL things, will pronoun neutralization really occur?
Or are we just going to stop saying he/she because it’s just easier?