Ok- I haven’t put pen to paper in over a week, unless it was to sign for a pineapple and rum laden beverage while beachside….
Of course today’s topic should really require a Venn diagram, but really, that’s so not going to happen today because my brain is definitely still back in the Caribbean. However, it’s sort of the perfect day to talk about this:
How much of these things do we need in our day to day?
Every person needs a small combination of these four things in order to survive and thrive.
What? You say we should never be selfish or self centered?
Wrong I say. Sometimes you really do need to be those bad things…
24 hours in a day. You need to throw in a little self care- you need to love yourself and take care of yourself. What are you going to do today that makes you feel a little better? Come on…name it. What is something that you are going to do? Ideally- you should have a list, or maybe a book of ideas that make you feel good. I’ll give you one of my self care main stays: read for 45 minutes. You wonder how I read so many books? I set aside time every day to read. Reading makes me happy. But see, one could say this interjects with selfish. Sometimes, I might let dusting or some other household task go undone because I just need time to myself…sometimes taking this 45 minutes a day could seem selfish. Don’t I have other things to do? Yes I probably do. But sometimes I have to come first- my peace of mind, my center, me:
Sometimes I need to put myself first: Call it self centered. Call it selfish. I call it survival.
My no means do I mean to shirk responsibilities> I realize that things still need to get done. But at what cost do things need to get done? Do the dishes need to be washed? Yes. Do they need to be washed right now? Maybe. Or maybe not…
Sometimes YOU need to come first…
Sometimes you need to say NO to something, or perhaps YES to something…
Sometimes you need to be the center of the universe: not all the time. but if you never come first, never allow yourself to come first, what are you really saying? Are you saying that you don’t deserve to take the spotlight for just a little bit? Are you saying that you don’t matter?
Life is about balance, about harmony, about making sure that all parts of you are in working order. What percent do you get to be selfish, self centered, self caring and selfless? Figure out how to be kind to others, and kind to yourself.
Figure out what you need to live your best life.
You can’t help anyone if you are not in top form.