Everyone you meet always asks if you have a career, are married, or own a house, as if life was some kind of grocery list. But no one ever asks you if you are happyHeath Ledger
We’ve gone down the whole happiness route before. But I saw this quote and I thought it was interesting, especially considering how Ledger’s life ended.
Let’s break this down a little.
When you first meet someone, what are the things that you want to know about them? How do you know if you want to be friends with someone? How do you know if it’s someone you want to avoid?
My daughter is in the process of figuring out who her roommates will be for next year. One person was easy, but now they are trying to find two others so that they can try to get one of the cool, Junior apartments. I’m betting they’re asked about majors, clubs and hometowns. They’ve probably talked about sleep habits and smoking. But I doubt they’re branched out into asking each other if they are happy.
Do we assume that those around us are happy?
A few months ago a neighbor of mine put a picture on Facebook on their grandchildren. I thought one of the kids looked, I don’t know, closed off? Arms crossed, not engaged with the siblings and cousins, far off look. I wondered if this kid was happy. It was odd for me, because I normally don’t think about whether or not people are happy. But there was something about this kid…the look…
Not long after the kid did suffer an episode that could be considered a mental breakdown.
While we all appear to be striving for happy, do we know what happy looks like? Do we know what unhappy looks like?
Are we more likely to realize that a stranger is unhappy as opposed to someone in our own family?
Do we really care if those around us are happy?
Do you ever ask someone if they are happy?
Or are you afraid to find out the answer is anything other than yes?
Of course, we could ask if happy is really the goal, or if content will suffice…
We could also ask if happy is conditional, a feeling that comes and goes as the day progresses…or is happy just a state of mind?
For write my blog Thursday….pick a question and ponder…