NEW YORK PARENT SEEKS OK TO MARRY THEIR OWN ADULT CHILD
This is the headline that flashed across my phone news scroll the other day.
https://nypost.com/2021/04/10/new-york-parent-seeks-ok-to-marry-their-own-adult-child/
First off- I had to double check the date to make sure it wasn’t an April Fool’s Joke.
Secondly, I checked the date to see if it was an April Fool’s Joke…
And I fully note that the papers were filed on April 1…
However…
Is there a chance that this is for real?
And then I scanned the article…
The person filing says that it is a matter of “individual autonomy”.
Ok- I was originally going to joke about this, say something like, well at least I know that my Mother in Law is in Florida, but really…
I can’t even…
If this is true, if this is actually a good law suit…
Am I wrong to think that this is nuts?
Or is there someone out there who is going to defend this saying that as I’ve never been in this situation I can’t put myself in their shoes? That I don’t understand what it’s like to be them?
Now…if you agree with this being an OK thing to file…I will listen to your argument…
But please…
Discuss…
But I will say, this would be one heck of an April Fool’s Joke
Sometimes there are no words.
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Right? I had to write about this because I can’t even…
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I do enjoy reading The New York Post from time to time…
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I get the headlines from all the NY newspapers in my scroll….but this…
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It is very frightening that other newspapers don’t seem to find this newsworthy.
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That’s a good point that I hadn’t thought of….
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Ugh…
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I know!! This played out in my head about a million times since I read it! I had to share it because I can’t even…
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The direction this world is going, I’m honestly not surprised. I fear that one day these type of scenarios will become reality. Everyone wants to do as they see fit.
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I just can’t even….
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I read the article and answered one question I had; they are indeed biological parent and child. So, no, no and no! I do not know how the legal system works in the US but does it mean that because a case has been filed that it will definitely go to court or has a judge already ruled that there is a case to answer? Why would a judge possibly say this has merit??
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I’m guessing this will get thrown out before it goes to trial….but who is to say this won’t show up somewhere else?
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Ah, so this might be some elaborate stunt ? I hope so!
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That’s what I’m hoping too…this is some stunt. I couldn’t find any indication that it’s a joke, but I admit I didn’t go past the first page of hits
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We can’t allow incest. It’s not good for the gene pool. It enables abuse. Can you imagine what will happen in places like Appalachia?
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Omg I know!! I stared at my phone when I saw it
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Not sure what you’re implying about Appalachia, but we don’t allow this kind of crap.
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I didn’t mean Appalachia when I agree. I meant the stereotype of siblings marrying. I apologize profusely for offending any one from Appalachia or any area that is stereotyped into the familial marrying thing
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I’m not offended, and my comment wasn’t directed at you! It takes a lot to offend me. People just have this idea that we have tons of incest, and that’s not the case. The thought is as abhorrent here as it is every where else. If anything, someone who tried to marry their biological child where I live probably wouldn’t make it to court!
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Well, there’s something to be said about taking a matter into your own hands
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It actually doesn’t happen very much anymore. We have become much more civilized. But this sort of thing might change that🤣
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It’s just nuts
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Agreed. Anyone who wants to marry their child has serious mental health issues, in my opinion.
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Sorry, Jorjagrael. My information is obviously dated about Appalachia, but I imagine that incest is a much bigger problem than the general public is aware of worldwide.
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I agree, it probably is, but no more here than anywhere else. There should be very harsh penalties for it. And I apologize if I came across as all offended. I shouldn’t look at my phone with just one cup of coffee in me!
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I’ve read stories and articles about incest running rampant in the Appalachian mountains.
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Don’t believe everything you read! Incest is SEVERELY frowned upon here. Yes, in the early days of settlement, the gene pool wasn’t huge. I have 2nd cousins who married in my family tree, in the 1800’s, but the whole intermarriage thing now is a myth. Just doesn’t happen.
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This is shocking, but allowing adults to have sex with ‘consenting’ children in California is okay? Christians have always warned that the slide into total sexual perversion and unlawfulness begin with letting a few little things be portrayed and forced to be accepted as normal. In the Courts is where they start.
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I’m still hoping this is some sort of stunt
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Let’s hope but the news is full of crazy stunts that are real, lol.
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I know
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https://www.kcra.com/article/california-governor-signs-bill-changing-sex-offender-law/33998732#
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I can’t even…..
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Yes, this is not good for gene pool, this could also be a cause for increase in sexual abuse,,,,but i don’t see our interference in it, if two adults wanna marry then it should be their thing, however disgusting it appears to us. Individual autonomy is a thing. They aren’t harming others are they? We need to be diplomatic in such situations nd that’s my opinion and that doesn’t mean i support it!
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Appreciate the insight but I’ll agree to disagree
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Sure… I appreciate it as well!
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Just spent about 5 minutes noting all the times the Post has been called out for less than credible “news” stories, as well as being cited as the least reliable source for “real” news while appropriating a mish-mash of stories from other sources. So…true story: I have my doubts.
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I will tell you one story. About fifteen years ago my father picked up the post. On the front page of the paper was the Christmas card picture of my cousins and their family. The story that it exposed was definitely an “I cant believe that” story, and it was true. But yes…I 100% agree that the Post is less than scrupulous in its journalistic accuracy. I’m betting that at least one part of this story is true though
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I expect it’s the Donald.
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Ha….I think he’s a Florida resident now, but good guess
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I would like to think it is a joke or some sort of scam, but these days who know. Also – every time I’ve spent the week in NYC I’ve always stopped on the way back to the hotel to buy a copy of the Post to read while waiting for my wife to finish work.
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For entertainment value, the Post is a good one
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Arguing that it should be acceptable to marry one’s child is an attempt to undermine morality, basically claiming it does not exist as a legal ground for our society. Next will be marrying one’s cat or the shell one found on the beach.
The alternative is to find that morality again.
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This just astounded me
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Thanks for alerting us to this, LA. I checked out the original article.
This is sad, for sure, but as other commenters note, nothing really should surprise us these days, since truth has become relative. ⚘
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It’s just
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I dont even know how to respond it’s so sad.
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It’s beyond my comprehension
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I agree
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I can see what you’re wondering here, so I’ll play devil’s advocate and ask, “Why not?” What right do we or the law have to say they can’t? Why is it anyone else’s business, with precedents like gay marriage, interracial marriage, marriage to an inflatable, or marriage between a man and his sheep?
Why does the law have legal authority to yea or nay the action?
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I think it’s psychological abuse of some sort when it comes to a child. A child is in a subservient position to a parent. For a certain period of tome child listens 100% to what the parent says. Then, when they reach the teen years the child rebukes against parental authority, which May suck for the latent, the developmentally, is what the child is supposed to do. If a child doesn’t rebel in at least some form against their parents (agreed there are degrees of parent/child angst) the kid may not have developed normally psychologically speaking. The child in question is afraid of the parent for some reason, afraid they will disappoint them or they won’t be loved. While this is also sort of normal for a kid, there comes a point where the child is scared to say no. A child is supposed to trust their parent implicitly. I don’t think this is a way that a child can trust their parent. Or something like that
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Well, continuing the D.A. vein, what about gay couples allowed to adopt a child? A step-parent allowed to care for his or her spouse’s child? Abusive biological parents? Britney Spear’s father taking control even though she’s been an adult for awhile? Why is it up to the law to determine whether a person’s offspring has developed enough to know what he or she is getting into? Why would biology play a role if we can say we are biologically different than how we started? This seems an over-stepping of the role of law.
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Abusive parents are a real threat. And adoptive or foster? I don’t think sexual orientation makes one less fit. I’ve seen a lot of crappy Hetero parents of all sorts. Parents who get high or drunk with their kids is a problem. Hey, I’ve heard about parents who let the significant others of their minor children move in. I think there’s a whole lot of crappy parents…hence why so many crappy adults. And if I could I would prosecute them all. Think about the new one that will come up. 16 and 17 years olds need parental consent to get vaccine. What if parent says No? Is that abuse. Parental abuse is a whole series of blogs….
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Yes. I just wonder about the lines we draw (sincerely) and whether they will all shift beyond reasons like your initial scenario.
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I know. We’ve talked about this re censorship. We’ve explored new territory of what’s “right”…we’ve pushed lines…what is deemed “reasonable” is now really open for interpretation…For the most part I don’t care what anyone does, as long as they don’t tell me what to do and how to feel. But, if I think someone has been psychologically manipulated into something, or I feel a child has been wronged, I will probably step in. After the Woody Allen/Sun Yi thing, I did start to wonder about single parents introducing their children to new partners…
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What about gay couples adopting a child ? My nephew turned out ok having two dads.
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I don’t think sexual orientation affects kids at all. I know lots of kids raised by gay parents who are awesome, and lots of kids raised by heterosexual couples who are horrible.
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I agree with you LA that was in response Chel playing devils advocate
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Well, the intelligent way to handle anything is to pose those DA questions
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I’m playing devil’s advocate, Matt. These were issues forbidden by law at past points.
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ok sorry not 100% myself…All good
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The Appalachia thread misunderdtanding had me laughing, all good fun between blog pals👌
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smh
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ick, just . . . ick (though perhaps I need to add an “s”)
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Yeah…
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Crazy!
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I’m speechless if it’s the truth. And if it’s not, I’m relieved. Nope, I can deal with all the other types of marriages I guess but this one. BLECH…just yuck.
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That was my feeling.anything but this
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Incest in general is just wrong. I suppose someone could argue homosexuality is equally wrong but it’s not the same thing, if you marry your child when they become 18 or 21. were you sexually abusing them already or grooming them ?
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It’s the whole psychological angle…like you said, there is already abuse of some kind, and yes, grooming them is good word
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OOOOH this just …. yeah, there are no words!
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I know
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The only plausible way it could be okay is suppose you put up your kid for a closed adoption then years later met and married, but eww if you found out and married or if your kid turned 18 and you wanted…that is seriously fucked up in so many levels.
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I know
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Nuts. Period.
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I couldn’t even make a sarcastic post about this, though I had some interesting debate with Chel
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Whack-a-doodle!
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That’s how I feel
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Eeeeeww! Ugh!
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It’s nuts!!! I had to read your post twice to see if I was missing something in it! Still shaking my head I’m utter disbelief!
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I couldn’t get it out if my head…had to toss it out there today
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No, you’re not crazy, it is nuts… Wild.
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Mind boggling
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Agreed.
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Even if it is a joke, it is a pretty sick one.
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I’m still going what??????
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If the birds and the bees were doing it, then what the heck, but I think that is rare-to-nonexistent in the rest of the natural world. I hope it isn’t a true story.
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I’m hoping it’s a stunt
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There are no words, no wait there is! Insanity.
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I still can’t get past it
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Very odd
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People can do whatever they want, BUT this sounds hella weird to me. Why would you even have an attraction to someone to whom you’ve given birth?
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Since I wrote this I’ve been overthinking it. 1) is this a stunt to say that we’ve gone to far to one side on certain rights and privileges 2) is this to keep an adult child on your insurance after they’re 26 3) if this really is true, like Matt said, was the parent grooming the child all along? How long have they been attracted to child 4) does the child even know what’s in the parents mind? Maybe the parent is just delusional 5) McKenzie Phillips and her father…ewww 6) why do I assume the parent is a man? I have no idea of gender, but I’m totally thinking only a man would do this, which is wrong. A woman could do it, so why am I biased?
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LOL Any of these scenarios is problematic. I think it’s a man, too. I think if we had to place bets, we’d win money. It’s a man. Men seem to go out of their way to subjugate and do weird stuff when it comes to women.
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Agreed.but then I think about my mother in law and I’m pretty sure she’d want to marry her son (though not sexually. Just because no woman is good enough for him, and dgr can buy him underwear)
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🤦🏽♀️😂
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😉
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I think my mother-in-law would take me out grab her son if she could. She’s a weirdo and super jealous.
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Yeah….I said to KE that I’m pretty sure my mil would marry her son if she could…not in a sexual way, just in a possessive way
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Oddly I understand!
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I’m glad someone else gets this!!
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Unbelievable, yet in today’s culture of moral relativism, not surprising.
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It still amazes me, even a week later
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I sincerely hope it’s an April fools joke… But even then it’s not exactly what I’d call funny?!
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The more I think about it, the more I think it’s a stunt, sort if like you want everything to be flexible…then here you go…why not this
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Ah I see
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