Say there are two thirteen year old boys.
One boy bullies the other.
The incident does not take place during school or an organized event such as town provided youth sports.
Should the bully be allowed to participate in youth sports provided by the town/county?
What other information do you need to make a decision?
Here are some possible “what if’s”
- The bully has recently suffered a tragedy in his life
- The bully has been bullied by someone else in real life
- The bully has been bullied by someone else on line
- The bully is a victim of child abuse
- The bully is a victim of sexual abuse by someone he knows
- The bully is a victim of sexual abuse by someone he doesn’t know
- The bully’s parents are getting divorced
- The bully has a diagnosed disorder
- The bully has learning issues
Do any of the above scenarios, or any that you have thought of, affect the lens with which you view this question?
Here are some possible options for the Bully:
- Bully formally apologizes to the victim using a letter or a video
- Bully attends anger management classes
- Bully attends counseling
- Bully agrees to do community service
- Family of Bully monetarily compensates the victim of bullying
Now let’s switch back to the original question:
Should someone who has bullied someone else be allowed to play town/county sponsored youth sports?
Is this a hard YES?
Is it a hard NO?
What are the pros and cons of allowing the boy/bully to play youth sports? Or not allowing him?
If someone has made a mistake in the past, do we deny them the right to move on, or do we take a chance that they have amended their ways?
What do you think?
How do you make the decision? What do you consider important information?