You know how I love to use quotes in my writing…
How good are you at choosing something?
I’ve told you the story of my husband and the kitchen tile- and how he will never ever pick out something for the house again because he is too afraid of making a mistake again…
But do you freeze up at the thought of having to make a choice?
Research something for six months and still hem and haw?
Try six outfits on before you get dressed?
Change your mind on your meal as the waitestaff leaves your table?
Have fifty drafts in your wordpress draft folder?
Why are we so afraid of making mistakes?
I admit, I am a pretty good decision maker. I may research, or overthink it a bit, but I rarely actually hem and haw over something.
I just choose.
Of course, I have already sort of presorted things in my mind. My clothes are all the same color, and basically the same style. By this point in my life, I have my uniform. I know what I think is appropriate for different occasions- ie- I wear the same black dress, I just switch up the footware, the jewelry and the jacket layer up depending on the occasion and how much walking I’ll be doing.
If I’m at a restaurant I don’t worry about ordering something I’ve never had before: what’s the worst thing that happens? I don’t like it. My life doesn’t end because I tried chicken a la king and didn’t enjoy it…
My daughter will sometimes ask me if she should apply for something- she did it last week for a virtual alternative break program with her University.
I asked her these questions:
- Pros and cons
- Application fee too high?
- Was she locked in if she was chosen
- Downsides to applying
After these four questions, she knew her answer and she applied to the program. The worst thing that could happen is that she would waste a reference on something she wasn’t interested in.
Choosing something shouldn’t be rocket science: think about what you are choosing between. Ask yourself those type of questions.
Ask yourself what’s the worst thing that can happen if you say “Yes”
What’s the worst thing that can happen if you say “No”?
Are you letting fear of the unknown get the better of you?
Are you scared of change?
Are you scared of living your best life?
Are you scared that you will make a mistake?
Are you scared you will fail?
We all need to remember that inertia is a choice too. It might be a passive choice, but it is a choice just the same.
Ok- I know I sound like some sort of two bit motivational speaker that appears on the odd channels on the TV at 3am…I’m guessing this is where I ask you to purchase the boxset videos of my motivational speeches…49.99 plus shipping and handling…and if you act now I will throw in a set of ginzu knives…
We have spent the past year scared…
We have spent the last year on hold…
If you want a vaccine, call up and ask for one. I know in New York State, they threw out some vaccines because there was some confusion about who exactly was eligible, so my guess is no other state is going to let that happen, so I’d say, if you want a vaccine, be proactive and ask…
There is no harm in asking for a vaccine. The worst they can say is “No. Not yet.”
But think about making choices that will enrich your life, not detract from it.
Just cause we are breathing doesn’t mean we are living…
Disclaimer: I am not advocating for or against the vaccine. I am merely stating that if you’ve been living in fear, now is the time to start taking control back.
Oddly, when I got the idea for this post a few months ago, I had no idea where I would go with it. 700 words and I’m still not quite sure what my point is…
Stop stressing about little things.
Stop stressing about things that you can’t control.
Start living the life that you want to live.
Stop letting “things” hold you back.
We get one go round in life. Let’s make it a good one…
Stop worrying about which way you should go;