A few years ago, my Goddaughter came to town for a visit. She was probably about 23 at the time. As we walked down the streets we heard someone tell a tale about how they had cancer, and needed 23$ for the bus ticket back home where maybe the Mother who abandoned them would reclaim them…
or maybe they just lost their job…
or maybe their wallet was stolen…
And my Goddaughter asked me: Are any of these stories true?
TO which I replied: My guess is 99 out of 100 are lies…
When did I become so jaded?
Maybe it was when I was 23 and commuting to work. I didn’t have much money then, so I would bring lunch from home. I saw a homeless person on the subway saying they were hungry. I gave them my little bag containing a sandwich and an apple. They promptly threw in back to me and asked for money only.
One Saturday I was using mass transit to go to Long Island. A woman got on the train saying that her wallet was stolen and she just needed 11$ to get home. Sounds sad, right? You imagine yourself in the same position- how would you get home?
But see, the problem is, the weekend before I had seen the same woman on New Jersey transit. Again her wallet was stolen. But this time home was New Jersey…
The guy who sits on the corner of 23rd St and 6th Ave with a sign saying he needs 49$ to get the bus ticket home. Problem is, he’s been on the corner for about five years and I’ve seen him get money everyday, yet that 49$ never goes down….he’s never gotten on the bus home….Did I mention that I once saw someone give him an actual bus ticket?
So how do we learn to trust when a story is true, or if we are being played?
Ok- this was all about people that we don’t know….
What about trusting your partner in life? They buy things without your knowledge, they lose their job but don’t tell you, they keep a bottle of vodka behind a book on the bookshelf, they have their bookie on speed dial, they cheat on you….
How do you learn to trust them again?
Say that you can’t: do you let another person into your life?
I have a friend: 3 exes behind her- about to walk the
plank aisle with another: How does she do it? How does she have the space in her heart to trust another person to be her life partner?
Is trust just another form of faith?
Do we just will ourselves to believe that most people will be truthful about most things? Most of us start out like this- we trust that things are as they appear…
But at what point to we lose our trust in someone, something?
Are there people who never lose their trust?
What makes them different?
How trusting are you?
Do you let intuition guide you as to what to believe or not to believe? Or have you learned the hard way?
Trust- what are your thoughts.