Do we like women who speak their minds?
And when I say “we” I mean both men and women.
Back in Austen’s day, we know that outspoken women were looked down upon. Just think of what we thought of Mrs. Bennett…Admittedly, she was a buffoon as well, but should people have tried to shut her down? She was shut down by both men and women…
How about Lizzie? Lizzie clearly spoke her mind. But did both men and women look ill at her in that regard?
Now fast forward to the year that shall remain nameless:
Do we still have a problem with women who are outspoken?
How often are women referred to as nags?
I am not one of those women who is universally liked by other women. I’m seen as aggressive and domineering. I have a very “take charge” attitude.
Why are those bad traits?
If I were a man, would these traits be admirable?
So what do you think of women who put themselves right out there for the world to see? Have you ever referred to a woman as one of those traits, but not in a positive, this person is really awesome sort of way, but in a head tilt, talking out of the side of your mouth “watch out” sort of way?
I know my in laws have issues with my personality. They have said to my Husband…”well, when you talk to her, she has an answer to everything. You can never win with her.”
This, of course, makes me wonder if women are just in competition with one another all the time….if there’s some imperative to be the alpha…
I want you to think about whether or not you really admire women who speak their minds, women who are not afraid to enter into a battle of wits or words or whatever…women who want to share their ideas and theories and stories…
Even now, is there a little part of us who wants some women to just shut up?