When my daughter was growing up, I had a rule that we would eat dinner together as a family at least three times a week (assuming we were all in town). With the exception of one week during my daughter’s later high school years, we accomplished this.
And while we were eating a dinner, we played a game: high/low. Everyone would go around the table and say the highpoint of their day and the low point. This worked out really well because everyone was part of the conversation, and my daughter got to see that everyone had good things as well as bad happen to them throughout the course of the day. It allowed her to manage her expectations. It was one of my “rules” that I thought worked out quite well.
This year my daughter was an orientation counselor. During training they learned a game called rose/bud/thorn.
Rose is the high point of the day. Thorn is the low point. Bud is something to look forward to.
I like the look forward to aspect of the game.
Think about it: how often does knowing something good is on the horizon instantly elevate your mood?
There’s research that shows people enjoy planning a vacation more than the actual vacation itself. Anticipation is a good thing. (this is not to be confused with anxiety which is dreading something in the future but that’s a whole different piece)
So as you go about your day, remember to honor all the different emotions that you feel. Acknowledge the good and the bad. Think about the positive things that the future holds. And if the future doesn’t hold something positive- make it so that it does.
What’s your rose/bud/thorn?