Imagine a household, where a man lives with his 25 and 27 year old children…
For today’s purposes, we are going to define adult children as those who are not on your health insurance and are over twenty-five. We are going to define parent as the person paying the majority of the bills. We’re going to leave the 18-24’s alone for the time being.
So there you are, a parent, and both your adult children live with you…
Do you expect your children to ask permission to do certain things with regards to the house?
Do you expect them to discuss certain things with you before they happen?
Do you treat them as completely equal with regards to how things are done?
Like, if your child wanted to bring home a pet, would you expect them to ask your permission/discuss with you?
Do you have the right to say “No” if asked?
Does the parent have the right to bring home a pet without asking the others?
What about other things?
Building a firepit in the backyard?
Putting an above ground pool in the backyard?
Buying a gun?
Having someone spend the night?
Having a significant other move in?
Partaking of illegal substances?
Growing illegal substances?
How does the parent/child dynamic shift as time passes?
Do any of these expectations shift if the child financially splitting the cost of things?
If the child is paying the majority of the bills?
Please pick any or all parts of this discussion and, you know, discuss…