About two years ago I started meandering down the path of gratitude: at some point of the day I just down something that I’m grateful for.
Along this path, I’ve come across a few types of gratitude seekers, including the compare/contrast gratitude seeker. These are the people that are always like I’m grateful for X because not everyone has X. It sort of reminds me of the stereotypical dinner conversation of “Clean your plate. There are starving children in ______”
And just as the latter statement was the precursor to many an eating disorder, the former leads us to a false sense of superiority- I am better than you because you lack something I have...
I found out this week that a blogger I know lost a son to a tragic accident.
I can’t imagine saying I’m grateful for my daughter because someone else lost a child…
I am grateful for my daughter. PERIOD.
I am saddened by any family that loses a child. PERIOD
Just be grateful for what you have, not that you have more than someone else. Compare/contrast will just lead you to a life of dissatisfaction and regret.
Gratitude only works if you are truly grateful for the bounty before you…Otherwise it’s just pointless.