Have you heard the Number One most popular song in America?


I heard this song earlier in the week. When I first began to hear the words my mouth just dropped open. I knew that I would need to write something, because I was very confused.

I was originally going to do something sarcastic or clever, Friday Favorites, explicit lyrics edition. But as I sat here this morning, I just couldn’t be flip about this subject.

I believe in the First Amendment.

I don’t believe in censorship. Last Friday I did a post about things that I love that have been banned or challenged just to show how ludicrous censorship can be. On Sunday I posted a picture of one of my favorite works of art which had been censored.

I will defend the right for people to say what they want, including artists of all types.

Yet… my questions become:

Why was this song written?

Why is it so popular?

Last night when I was emailing a friend about this subject, I told them that I was going to put a warning on my post that it would contain explicit song lyrics. I was going to copy and paste the song lyrics.

But as I looked at the words this morning, I just couldn’t.

I could not bring myself to copy and paste a song that just boggles my mind.

The song literally and figuratively calls women whores.

Last year there was a Ban on “Baby it’s cold outside” because it’s demeaning to women and takes away their power.

Yet, now we find it is empowering to talk about how women act towards men so the men buy them expensive things, and refer to themselves as whores? In language that is so sexually explicit, there is only one way to interpret it?

Is the song supposed to be sarcastic? Is it supposed to make fun of men?

I’m no expert at interpreting words, but I just don’t see how any women can hear this song and scream from the rooftops “I am so proud to be a woman.”

Here’s the hard part of this post. I don’t want to force anyone to listen to this song. Yet, I want people to be aware of what’s being touted as the most popular song in America.

But if someone could please tell me why this song is so popular?

I was going to write what “WAP” stands for and I just can’t…

I never thought of myself as a prude, but as I can’t understand this song, maybe I am.

105 thoughts on “WAP- WTH

  1. This song takes the slurs usually used to demean women and puts them in THEIR hands. When you embrace a word, it can no longer be used to hurt you. When you commit to the double standards upheld and admit they exist – they can no longer be upheld.

    It’s much along the lines of that once revolutionary Christina Aguilera/Lil’Kim song (can’t hold us down). Just a bit more graphic because we as a people have become so desensitized that you have to go to extremes to still make a point that’s actually heard.

    And the added TikTok trend of ‘performing’ the song definitely made it heard.

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    1. I just don’t think most people are listening to this sing with the same thought process as you. Imagine a 13 year old boy listening to it? How is he going to treat a 13 year old girl?


      1. It’s not the 13 year olds that need that change in thought pattern yet. Once the adult population (who SHOULD be bright enough to deduce the message) changes their behavior in accordance….the younger generation will be molded to that new (and better, imho) status.

        Or. It’s just a trashy song. Also possible.
        I’m hopeful for a change tho. At least it got people talking 🤷‍♀️

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  2. The younger gen doesn’t understand our reaction because they have a very different worldview and morality. Thankfully the youngest gen is rebounding. My 15 and 17 yr old sons find it disgusting and obviously wrong no matter the ‘intent’. They find it ridiculous that any woman would be empowered by something like that, the same way they shake their heads at strippers being called legitimate entertainers. Sadly they are too young to vote!

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    1. I’m going to think about what the other commenter said, because she expressed it in a way I could consider rationally. But I still worry that the “intent” of the song will not quite be interpreted by everyone, and that’s where problems begin

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  3. I haven’t heard the song, but have read about it extensively since the kerfuffle began in August. The most interesting piece I read about WAP focused on the fact that rap lyrics by men are not subject to this level of excoriation. Yet another double standard.

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    1. Songwriters: Austin J. Owens / Belcalis Almanzar / Frank Rodriguez / James III Foye / Jorden Thorpe / Megan J. Pete now, I don’t know how these people identify or if they have masculine genitalia, but judging my names at least two are these names are usually names given to males.


    1. That’s exactly how I felt. As I said, I’ll consider what the other commenter said, but I don’t think the average listener of this song is going to read too much into it

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  4. So much for working to make men think women are to be respected. This puts them in ‘their place’ regardless of whether or not all women agree with it or not. I had to look up the lyrics as I’m not into current “music”, and all I could think of is ick. It that the best that women’s rights could produce after fighting for equality for years? How pathetic. Unless, as you mentioned, it’s a parody – but even then, it gives off the wrong ‘vibe’.

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  5. My curiosity got the best of me. My mouth literally dropped open. All I say is that we’re living in a time when right has become wrong and wrong is right. Censorship aside, morals and values are ceasing to exist. God help the little children being brought up in this world!

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    1. I just didn’t feel empowered at all after listening to it. I understand there’s some underlying point, but I don’t think that’s what will be remembered about this song


  6. I am aware of the song but haven’t heard it. I’m not much interested in pop music [is that the genre?] nor am I in the mood to deal with any music &/or lyrics that aren’t pleasant and put me in a good headspace. Whatever, I say, to WAP.

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  7. I have not heard the song and pretty sure I probably don’t want to. I’m going to go out on a limb and say I love Baby it’s Cold Outside even with the controversy….I’m also going to go out on a limb and say I don’t like the song WAP even though I have not listened to it I have heard about it a lot though.

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  8. I looked up the lyrics and yes they are graphic. Empowering in some fashion, I don’t think so. Designed to make sales and a profit, absolutely. Do people in general, especially fans, give much thought to the subject matter, I doubt it. Is this poetry, no. Is it art, no. Is it taking control of language for a purpose, not that I see. Is there some dubious double standard in criticizing them, I don’t think so. Is there worse out there, no doubt. I don’t care who writes this stuff or pretends to sing it, it’s just not appealing in any way. I don’t see that as a generational difference either. If this is supposed to be reflective of a generational view, well good luck when they have to face the difficult parts of life. If people have money to waste to buy this stuff for some type of shock value, well I guess that shows just how spoiled people are in this country. I’ll give my money to the food bank. I’ll write WAP on the check – “Worried About People.” Great post! 🙂

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    1. Thank you and your spit on perspective. I am trying to understand the positives of what people are saying about it, but I’m still having difficulty with it. As stated, is it the worst song out there? No. But I worry about how younger people will view this song

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  9. Song lyrics have always pushed boundaries, but I agree this goes beyond that. Most will call it freedom of expression and art, I think of it as just pushing the shock value. It has gotten a lot of press. I believe we as human beings need to look at what we say and how we treat people and the bigger society issues, but this type of thing will continue as long as it makes money.

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    1. I find myself in a quandary because I defend the right for this song to appear in the public domain, yet I do not like what it portrays. I was in a spin class awhile back and a teacher got in trouble for using a sing that had the word bitch in it, and that was a sing that was both written and performed by a woman. While I understand that there is apparently a deeper meaning, to me it’s still a sing written by men who got the women to perform it for money

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  10. I asked my 12yo if she knew about WAP and what it means. She got all giggly and refused to engage in a conversation with me. She was very surprised that I had heard of it.

    Even when I offered no judgement to just tell me what she thinks she wouldn’t. I assume she is confused mostly. I decided to revisit another time and not push.

    I believe the main thing they do at that age is pass around memes. She says they’re funny. (I don’t think so.)

    I went to the reviews expecting outrage. I was wrong. People are praising this song as empowering women to get what they want, to get satisfaction from a man (in the sack).

    It’s an aggressive method to communicate women’s empowerment if you ask me, and I do not agree with what is being said about the song or the singer.

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  11. It’s Cardi B–I just expect it! Yeah, it’s just baffling how that can be taken as empowering and not demeaning, by Cardi and the women and men who listen to it. (AND, what hurts me more is, since I’ve gone into menopause, I am like, uh huh, OK, Cardi, wait your turn, girl.)

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  12. I hadn’t heard of the song and I had to look it up. I am, to be honest, bemused. It took six people to write this? It only took two people to write “Imagine” and only one to write “Always Look on the Bright Side of Life”.

    If you want a song that uses irony to good effect try “I hate Wogs” by Eric Bogle. It carries an anti-racism message, but I’ve actually heard racists singing it as an anthem, not realising they were mocking themselves.

    That’s a level that WAP will never achieve, Rude words and shock tactics just aren’t enough to change the world.

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      1. There’s a universal truth in The Wife of Bath, not just shock value and a fashionable cause. I’m going to be old-fashioned here and give my opinion that this song isn’t going to change anything apart from the bank balances of the people involved.

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  13. I have really loved some edgier, raunchier songs in my life. There are still songs I enjoy that shock my kids. I tend to have a somewhat perverted sense of humor. That said, I read the lyrics for this and am in full on WTF mode. This plays on the radio?! Um… how? There would be so many bleeps that the song would be unrecognizable. I’m all for owning your sexuality and feeling free to express that, but that isn’t what this is. Yikes!

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    1. On Spotify, which is I’m guessing how kids listen to music (ok…that’s how I listen) the full on lyrics come out. That’s my thing too….I’m all about empowerment and taking charge of your own sexuality, but this? I’m still processing it.

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  14. Oof. That’s degrading to everybody. I suppose if Maplethorpe’s Piss Christ was art then so is this. And you are right about the First Amendment but wow. It’s hard to ignore when it’s blaring out the window of the car next to you but I do try to ignore it. In 25 years it will be a Golden Oldie!

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  15. Don’t know the song. And, after reading all the comments here, don’t want to know it. Shock value seems to be the new entertainment objective; it gets attention and it gets dollars, sadly. I think anything that panders to the very lowest in human interactions is wrong. Just wrong. It’s like the T-rump (ak.a. the ass) pandering to racists and bigots – it’s just plain immoral and wrong. Call me a prude, I will wear that label proudly because I don’t believe intimacy should be paraded out there for entertainment.

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      1. LOL I’m sure this post wasn’t intended to entertain me, but it has. Many of the songs sound JUST like this nowadays, and are grouped in the women’s empowerment/feminism category. I’m on the fence about how I feel.

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      2. I understand the basic theory of why it’s empowering to some. Yet, I can’t get past women calling themselves whores. I know it’s supposed to take away the power of the words, yet I don’t think the average listener is going to think about the meaning of the song. If I had a son I don’t think I’d want him playing this too often. I’m still thinking it over

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  16. How is this played on the radio ? It’s like going back to anything by Lil’ Kim or on the flip side any rap by 2 live crew. Porn rap, my coworker said kids at her daughter’s day care were singing this shit, the explicit version.

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  17. I hadn’t heard this song when I read your post, I googled the lyrics. I don’t understand. After I read the lyrics, as much as I could stomach, I can’t see that message empowering women. In my humble opinion, it validates sterotypes, women are users and gold diggers just an example. When my adult daughter was a teen she loved the “cheetah girl” movies and books. One of the song lyrics for the fictional girl group was “I don’t need a prince, I’ll save myself” (paraphrased). Isn’t that what we want to teach our daughters? To use their brains to get the life they want?
    I can’t imagine this playing while I’m in the same room as my teen age son. That would start a very serious conversation or lecture depending on your point of view.

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    1. After reflecting I understand why some people feel if they say the word, they take away the power of the word. But I agree, I don’t think it’s actually empowering because I don’t think anyone listening to the song casually is analyzing it to any degree.


  18. I have not heard this song here in the UK, but then I am not ‘down with the kids’ so I shall have to Google later.

    I don’t believe in censorship either, people have a right to think and say what they feel. I grew up in a time when there was a saying ‘Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me’ it seems now that every world will kill someone.

    Bright Blessings

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  19. I had read something about this song before but have no desire to look at the lyrics. I have difficulty with RAP and all that stuff that passes for music these days as so many of the lyrics are offensive and degrading or senseless. This seems to have become the norm. One look at the recent MVA’s made me change the channel. I remember when people thought Prince was controversial…..

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    1. I asked my nephews yesterday (11 and 15) what they thought of it. They said the song means that if you buy girls things they let you have sex with them, and the better the stuff, the more they’ll do. Gee…empowering…

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