My daughter and her friends rented an AIRBNB beach house over the summer.
Five 19 year olds and my 18 year old daughter.
The day they were leaving my daughter hands be a piece of paper: This is a contract from the owner of the property. you need to sign it. She handed me a piece of paper that listed all the girls names as well as the Mom’s (what does it say that even in 2020 when a child is asked to provide the name of a parent they still put their Mom….see…this is how blog ideas happen for me)
Back to the contract: Why do I need to sign? You’re legally an adult? My daughter shook her head in the international symbol of “I don’t know.”
After one of the Mom’s picked up my daughter for the drive, I got a phone call from an unknown number. When I checked the voicemail, it was the renter of the house.
Does your daughter have permission to away?
This conversation went a little like this:
Me: She’s 18. She’s legally allowed to enter into a contract.
Renter Guy: No she’s not. They can be on your insurance until they’re 26 so they’re not adults till then
Renter Guy: Yeah. At eighteen all they can do is enlist in the army
Me out loud : What???????
Me in my head: Hmmmm…do they call a soldier’s Mom before they go to battle- Hey- Can Jimmy man a tank today? We have to go invade something. Oh wait, what about getting married? If this was their honeymoon would they call and ask- Oh Can Susie have sex with her husband this weekend? When I was eighteen I remember going to the Hamptons with my work friends and renting a room and no one said anything…I could legally drink at 18…
Me out loud: Of course she can go.
After this incident, I read that AIRBNB is trying to make the rental age 25 across the board. Sort of like renting a car.
Do you know there’s also talk of lowering the age that you can become President to 25.
There’s been talk of lowering the voting age to sixteen…
Simultaneously, we have people that feel that at the age of 25 you are mature enough to literally take on the problems of the world.
Yet, you are not mature enough to rent a house for the weekend.
You might cause damage in the house…
You might be irresponsible…
So what’s the actual deal?
Do we change decide what age someone should be because it suits us as a society?
Do we want the bright ideas of bright young things?
Or do we think these same said kids are still in toddler mindset?
Have we further infantilized young adults by doing too many things for them?
What is the age of consent?
Shouldn’t the age of consent be the same for everything?
How can we allow one thing that smacks of being an adult while blocking something else?
Shouldn’t there be a point where we don’t have to be active parents? Like, I don’t know, 18, when we ship them off to college or work?
Or do kids just not want to grow up?