We all judge people. As George commented yesterday, if you say you don’t judge, you’re lying to yourself and others.
So: We all judge.
Were we born to judge, or did we pick it up along the way?
I mean, little kids can be harsh- they have no tact and little kids just tell it like it is. They might cry when they see a guy with a beard. They might tell you that you smell. They might ask why you’re wearing something that they’ve never seen before. Now you can argue that it’s often a sense of being curious, but are we just born to see which one of these things is not like the other? Are we born with certain preferences?
Right now I know some of you are rolling your eyes and judging me. Another nature/nurture post from LA? Tsk tsk tsk… Here we go again…
In a comment a few weeks ago I asked sociologist Deb if judging wasn’t hardwired into us…She responded there is no way judging is hardwired. She stated that judging is learned behavior.
But then we go back to my nature/nurture thing… How do we really know what is caused by environment?
If we all judge, can’t you think that maybe we are born with a need for self preservation, and our of this need to survive, maybe we judge things that are unfamiliar or different?
KE said yesterday that maybe we judge our of fear….Can’t that be considered a survival mechanism?
So, maybe we are born with a need to make ourselves feel better about ourselves….
I say maybe- because I really have no idea…I’m just thinking out loud…
Maybe the need to judge is nature.
The things we judge on are nurture.
A blogger commented yesterday that she sometimes opened up food bags at the grocery store while shopping because she had a blood sugar issue, or simply wanted to keep her kids quiet. She always paid for the items, putting the empty packaging on the conveyor belt. I stated that I judged pre eaters. Why did I judge them? Well, my Dad had a store when I was growing up. He had to be careful with the candy section because it’s real easy to take candy, and quickly destroy the evidence… I can’t help but think of shopkeepers who lose money because of this.
I judge people who do this. Am I justified in judging them?
So working under the assumption that we judge out of survival…that we as humans can’t help but judge…
What do we do with that information?
We judge, then ________________
We figure out why we judge certain people, actions etc… When we know the why, we work on figuring out just how bad a thing is that we are judging…
I mentioned that I judge people who walk around in heels all day, out in the streets (or the boardwalk for that matter). Why should I care what others wear on their feet?
- Heels are really bad for your feet. Ask any podiatrist. Eventually you will end up with some sort of foot issue
- Heels are uncomfortable when worn for a prolonged period of time. Have you ever gone sightseeing with a friend who wore impractical shoes for walking around?
- I admit high heels make someone’s legs look longer and more attractive. Calves become more defined, ankles look slimmer, you look taller. People will stop to look at you. While I think everyone should have the ability to look their best, I don’t like the thought that physical appearance trumps safety, comfort and practicality.
- Shoe designers are masochists.
Again, am I wrong to judge these street stilt wearers?
I mean, it probably doesn’t make me a nice person…
Yet, I do have friends that wear heels when out and about. I may judge their choice of footwear, but it doesn’t mean I don’t like and respect them in other ways…
I judge people who don’t read, yet only half of my closest friends are readers. My college has started an online book club. (you know I joined) Out of my three college besties, only one other has joined with me. I still adore the other two even though I did tell them that they were philistines….
I judge men who wear jewelry other tan wedding rings and watches because of the stereotype of Italians being in the mob, and all mob guys wear flashy gold linked things and pinky rings…I don’t like the Sopranos effect…
762 words later and I still don’t know anything…
Is it bad to judge in general? (several people mentioned admonishing themselves when they found they were being judgmental)
Or should we just evaluate WHAT we judge and WHY?