You are allowed to be all three. Feelings are not mutually exclusive.
Just because you have what appears to be contradictory thoughts doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you human.
Angry, sad, grief stricken, bored, frustrated…scared. You can be any combination of these and still be ok…
Accept your feelings. Accept the feelings of others.
Too many people have decided that the way they feel is the only proper way to feel.
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I know. I thought we were the generation of tolerance
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From what I have seen and heard recently… highly unlikely. We are savages at our basic level and some are closer to our roots than others.
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Beautiful.
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Feelings and actions are different. I think you can feel anyway you want, it is what actions are created by those feelings that I might have issue with.
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I am doing everything possible to protect myself and others. That being said, someone from my husbands ski club committed suicide yesterday. That’s an action o really don’t like, yet if we don’t start helping people out emotionally, that’s going to be more and more common.
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How sad, I am so sorry. Unfortunately because we are socially distant, reading peoples feelings and desperation are difficult if not impossible. You have no idea how situations play with peoples minds and feelings, we just need to watch out for eachother the best we can. Again I am so very sorry.
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Thank you. It’s one of the things that made me write this today. People are making blanket, one sided statements without realizing all the ways this is destroying everyone. Keeping healthy people under quarantine is the quickest way to make them sick, physically, emotionally and mentally. We need to stop fighting with one another over which emotion is more important…right now, people who felt lonely before are now really at wits end….
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Get out in the sun. I agree 100 percent.
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Very sorry to hear about your husband’s friend. That’s terrible. We all have to be more tolerant, considerate and understanding.
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Thank you. Right now we’re so busy yelling at each other to prove who is more right, we’re forgetting that there are living, breathing people who are being affected by this. If we’re really worried about our community we have to actually do something positive to help our community. We’re not listening. Until we listen there will only be more tragedies. It’s like, would you rather be right, or would you rather help (I don’t mean you specifically, I mean it as a collective you)
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I wish I could do more. It might make me feel less powerless.
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I know. We donated a pie this morning (through a company) for health care workers. My daughter is volunteer tutoring kids having difficulty trying to learn in this online environment. But yeah….it’s hard….
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🙂 Volunteering feels good. But the opportunities are few and far between with stay at home orders in place.
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I know. You have to do it online. Though I know meals on wheels is still operating here
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My friend runs the one in our town. They’re not taking new drivers. Believe me, I’ve asked. 🙂
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I get it. Does your town have any line resource to be a tutor? My daughter is working with one for nyc only, but maybe if you call your school district you could do something like that?
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I don’t know if I have the patience for that right now LA. My kids are around me constantly, and I’m fighting for every break I can get from them. I wouldn’t mind helping seniors though. They’re always very appreciate of any help. 🙂
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Oh…you don’t see me signing up for that….honestly, my birthday is in a few weeks and when asked what I wanted I said an hour with no one else in the apartment….some senior centers are doing online grandparents things.if I find the link I’ll get it to you
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I love the visual – and agree wholeheartedly. We are all a mix of emotions right now and sometimes don’t know what to feel or believe. I would assume that does make us a normal human being right now!
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Exactly! Honestly, only feeling one thing is sort of robotic….we are a mass of contrasting as well as similar thoughts. It’s ok to have these thoughts. It’s not ok to shout someone down for thinking them. (My daughter helped with the visual because I had no idea how to do it)
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Can she (your daughter) also work on getting rid of computer hackers? If so I could use her help. But, if not I am so glad she was able to help with your visual graft as it is helpful to show how things can affect us at the core.
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Well said, LA. 🙂 We are so used to following a routine and having control of our lives, this sudden uncertainty seems to be going over our heads at times. It’s okay to feel any or all kinds of emotions at once. This is our chance to embrace our feelings and not judge ourselves or others.🙂
Hugs🙂❤❤
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Thank you!! 💗💗💗💗💗
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I recently took a few days away from FB as I was drained by seeing friends bickering along political lines about the current situation, also by local groups complaining about joggers, cyclists, teenagers etc etc. Having heard of the death of 2 people in my extended family, I had no emotional bandwidth to keeping seeing the same old same old, neither did I feel it was right to tick them off just because I was feeling sadness. Over the years, I’ve tried to stop & think before posting my thoughts & emotions, something I wish was more prevalent.
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I put a 30 block on about half of my facebook friends, including my mother and my sister because I just can’t….
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I love this post! Exactly what I needed. Thanks!
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I’m there with you, LA, but I’m also trying not to let the worry consume me.
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I know. But if we say the emotion out loud it takes its power away
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Honestly, I am too busy to worry which I am learning is a good thing and the husband keeps busy with projects. Our garden is doing magnificently.
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You said it LA. Acceptance is allowing ourselves to understand we are not the only ones with these fears/concerns/worries.
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We’re allowed to feel, and we’re allowed to feel different things
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Absolutely! We’re all multi-faceted.💜
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Hang tight, LA. You and yours are going great guns.
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Humans are such complex creatures. We should be allowed to be exactly as screwed up as we are, because it’s ok to be as screwed up as we are
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Ain’t that the truth
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This is spot on, LA. Sorry about the ski buddy. I read a NY surgeon on the Covid front lines also committed suicide on Sunday. How this situation is affecting people is individual and we all have conflicting feelings, I’m sure. Patience and tolerance are Job One.
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A woman? If so, that’s his ski friend. We have to respect our feelings, and know that everyone is suffering on a certain level
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Yes. So sorry to hear.
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Very sad. My husband didn’t know her well, but she was good friends with one of his friends. It’s very sad. Just one of many tragedies that will surround this time
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So sorry to hear about the healthcare professional who could not see a way other than taking her own life. With that said, I have seen the same with many of my military combat buddies too. High stress jobs in high stress impossible situations and some of us break. A hug now and then or being allowed the full range of emotions we experience would help. Being caged like animals to our apartments, houses, offices is so unhealthy. Looking at everything and everyone as if they are carrying the virus is also not healthy. See the number of dead in your great city LA is not healthy for those of us who war gamed this very situation for years and knew we would never be prepared. Waiting for as long as we did to initiate the plans was a calculated risk that has not paid off for anyone. But, now that we are there all of us just need to be kind, remember to only take in small amounts of news and then turn it off, focus our love inward and our concerns outward only to the point where it doesn’t cause undue pain or harm to those around us. Life is short for all of us and we all need to Carpe Diem! Stay safe and healthy.❤️🙏
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So well said, there’s nothing I can add except: thanks for posting this!!!
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You and I talked about this….people are hurting in many ways….just because we don’t have corona doesn’t mean we’re healthy….
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This is brilliant and so apt!
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Thank you!
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Can we just say there is hope that is outside the venn-diagram, the universal set 🙂
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Preach!
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