There are studies that say planning for a vacation is more exciting for people than actually going on a vacation. The thrill of what you’re about to do is better than doing those things…
The other day when I told you that my daughter had gotten into the major that she wanted, everyone was happy. Lots of exclamation points. And it wasn’t really about my daughter getting into something. It was about remembering that there is a future in front of us. It was about hope.
See, that’s the problem now. Many of us cancelled things we were looking forward to. Many of us have no plans on the horizon. Many of us can’t see the future. Many of us are starting to lose hope.
So here’s what I want you to do:
Figure out something to do tomorrow.
Figure our something to do next Tuesday.
Figure our something you can do next month.
It can be streaming some show that sounds interesting, or reading something off your TBR, or going to the market. But pick something.
Pretend it is the greatest thing in the world.
Read some things about the show or book.
Take a different route to the market.
But a food that you’ve never considered trying. Buy something just because it looks so good you can’t pass it by.
Do something that reminds you that there is a future in front of us, that our best days are not in the rearview mirror….
And I don’t mean those elaborate lists that people have created filled with all these things that you should try- those lists are sort of like New Years resolutions, where the first day you’re all gung ho, and then you’re like- no I really don’t want to learn to be a rockette in my living room…
I mean small, concrete, manageable things.
Things that you already enjoy, but need to reconfigure how you enjoy them…
Hope doesn’t have to be a four letter word…
It is funny, my son in law and daughter sat down at the beginning of this nightmare and wrote down EVERYTHING they wanted to do(accomplish) around their home. When they get antsy or anxious they accomplish one thing. Now not all of them can be done with the restraints in place, but the act of sitting down and discussing these things made them feel as if they had a hold on the future.
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Thatโs just it. It gives you a sense of control when there is none.
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GREAT way of THINKING! I was supposed to go to a wedding April 25. Postponed until August 8th. On July 13th, supposed to meet College girlfriends as the beach AND SO ON.
So… as we can’t predict the FUTURE, we can at lease plan for today, tomorrow and LIKE YOU SAID, next week! For now, small future plans — GIVES HOPE, MAKES US DETERMINED to BEAT THIS! โค
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Little things. Itโs always the little things
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Wonderful ideas and a great reminder that there is a future beyond this. Thank you for your post!
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Hope! That’s a powerful and empowering word! Love this post LA! ๐
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Absolutely!! Got to have hope!! I am planting potatoes today!!! Something to do and something to look forward to in the near future!!
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Exactly! Plan for something you love thatโs simple and attainable. Itโs the little things that will get us through!
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I love planning trips. I love a list – groceries, menu for the week, books to read, movies to watch, things to do. It helps me prioritize. Right now I also plan my money situation in case I am laid off. Planning letโs me feel like I have control which is so important these days.
BTW, the trips on my Vision Board? A cruise and Venice…those are on hold indefinitely.
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Yeah….Italy…maybe next year…
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Some days it is easier to do something that is more physical then mental. I have washed, waxed and detailed the inside of both cars. Well, one we did as a family and few days later I did my car by myself. If felt good getting such a big job accomplished. It felt good to be outside-ish (in the garage for the waxing but the door was open). I am trying to focus more on one day at a time, just planning a few days ahead. rain later in the week? Thinking I will bake something. I love “hope doesn’t need to be a four letter word”. Stay safe!
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You too!!
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There is a ton of places and things I would like to do. I will try to do a few things here first in BC, maybe Barkerville (gold rush town, you can pan for gold) as it is a longish drive but may split it up. I also want to revisit Jewel lake, a lake fed by a spring in the middle, lots of fish, loons, eagles and nice hiking. Later in the year some trips to Vancouver, BC and in the fall I would like to visit Florida or Texas – I am not sure where but not the big cities, fly in, just rent a car and get out of Dodge so to speak. I am even thinking I would consider VIA rail to Toronto and fly home.
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Iโm so not looking far into the future. But day to day, things are fine. Iโm never bored. A whole afternoon vanished yesterday as I worked on a blog post – had meant to go for a bike ride! I do look forward to my garden sprouting this spring – something I may have missed if my research trip had taken place as planned.
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A friend of mine just had his baby girl, and named her Hope. ๐
Excellent advice, as usual, LA.
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I have plans, lots of plans. Now, if I could just stop procrastinating. (And no, this is not new, I am a terrible procrastinator).
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Like others, Iโm operating a day or two at a time for a myriad of reasons. Iโm finding everything has slowed right down & yet each day is rushing past without my achieving even a tiny fraction of what I would normally. All part of our New Normal I think. Iโm avoiding setting goals in case Iโm unable to achieve them – which could prove depressing & is something Iโm vulnerable to – instead am operating a more flexible idea of things Iโd like to do but within a relaxed timeframe.
But Iโve just attended my granddaughterโs virtual birthday celebration – something that not only brought joy in the present & but hope for the future.
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Exactly what I am experiencing – minus the birthday party. I do tend to be a procrastinator, but this whole situation has amplified many times over.
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Virtual parties are wonderful!
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I love this #thisiswhyiloveyou
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Quite possibly my all time favorite of your posts! โค
I was in an icky place yesterday, just straight up over the whole damn situation.
But, I considered looking forward instead of being mired in the present, and thoughts similar to these swam around in my brain before I fell asleep last night. I didn't get as far as you did in the thought process, but I have to say, hope is the best possible word, and feeling we can experience right now. Thank you for reminding us that hope endures!
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Itโs all we have now…๐๐๐๐๐
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xoxo โค
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An excellent post and an excellent idea! I’m remembering that happiness is something to hope for.
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It sure is
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Good thoughts. The spring flowers and blossoming trees are hope lifting for me. I bought a basil plant right before all this started. Against all odds it has faired well and doubled in size in its temporary home in my breakfast nook. A few days ago I decided to name it–Hope!
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God for you! Basils like a weed!!
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Hubby and I look forward to Netflix at night like it’s a romantic getaway.. not even lying..I get all giddy..it’s a sweet reward after another boring dinner of whatever- plus noodles or rice.
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Thatโs exactly how you should look at it…itโs your reward…you get to watch a movie and thatโs pretty good from where I sit
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It’s a super simple existence right now on one side of our front door- super complicated of course on the other..
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I like this โHope doesnโt have to be a four letter wordโ too……
This was supposed to be my year. I let my hair down and paid for trips to Papua New Guinea, Margaret River wineries, Outback Qld, and the Darwin Cup. Even have the special frock for that one. All cancelled. No refunds thus far. Now Iโve learnt the my baby is having her first baby. Hope? I just hope we all get through this okay…..Thatโs enough for me.
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Me too….
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Keep it simple. Ozark season 3 is on.
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Wonderful inspiration here. Thanks for looking on the bright side.
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I love this. It’s why I still have a to-do list, well that, plus I’m still a little anxiety-ridden ๐
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Putting things on paper helps
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Excellent ideas.
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I booked a Quest blood test for next September today. Does that count? ๐
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I totally agree about planning the vacation! We donโt have the funds to do much, but I love the planning. โค๏ธ
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Good idea! We will have good times again, and we need to find ways to have something to look forward to, even tomorrow. Thanks for a useful tip on how to manage during the stay at home orders!
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Itโs all about little things, as always.
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Today’s target is to not watch TV until mid-afternoon. I was getting in a rut. I have been writing, reading blogs and feeling relaxed. Julia has just been giving me a list of jobs to do, so the feeling of being relaxed has now gone.
One of the neighbours just delivered rhubarb, from a suitable distance.
Tonight’s target is rhubarb crumble. We will make enough for two nights, so that has started the plan for tomorrow.
We have little flour but I bought crumble mix when I went shopping yesterday.
They aren’t grand plans, but they pass the time and provide small wins.
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Small wins. Exactly. We have a no tv till 6pm rule in our house. It works.
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This is a terrific post, LA. A nice reminder that even in this odd reality, we can still find meaning.
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Thank you!
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