No one is aware of the crisis going on than me. While I am not obsessively watching the news, I do check in for updates occasionally.
Presently, my city is considered the epicenter of the virus. My Governor states that conservative estimates place the chance of a New Yorker at getting the virus at 50%.
Half of my state.
Half of my city.
Half of my daughters classmates from school.
Half of my Husband’s colleagues.
Half of the people I know from tea society, book club and the gym.
Half of my closest friends
250 people in my building
8 people from my floor
1.5 people in my apartment
These are the numbers and statistics I see. Based on conservative estimates, and by conservatives I do not mean via statistics given on Fox News, I mean stats based on what is happening now.
I am choosing not to blame or finger point. I am choosing not to look at what was done yesterday, or last week or last month. Mentally, I can not afford to say “Well- we should have done X last week.”
What does finger pointing do to help anyone facing the crisis now?
What does blaming someone for yesterday do to help us today?
When I see someone asked a question of what can be done, the answer that “this should have been done two weeks ago” is a bogus answer. The person saying that has absolutely no idea what to actually do. They have no ideas. They can only naysay…That’s a loser answer because it’s really not answering the question of what can be done NOW.
A year from now we can rehash this. We can come up with a new gameplan…but for now..it’s onward ho.
Let’s put it this way- our city and state government asked last week for social distancing. They asked nicely. Yet, when our governor toured the city parks the other day, he saw anything but social distancing. If different choices had been made, would people have complied? Or it personal freedom still the most important thing?
Yesterday I lost a reader who I really respected. I appreciated his no nonsense approach and out of the box thinking, but he doesn’t see my point of view. This is fair- we all have the freedom to decide what to do and what to read…
So here’s the thing: if you want to blame anyone, from the president to the Chinese to my governor to people not self distancing, this is probably not the blog that you want to read. No worries. I get it.
But if you are willing to consider what we might want to do today, or tomorrow, then stick around. If you want to hear how three people, a dog and a cat are surviving in 700 square feet, stick around. If you want to see the peaks and valleys of my moods- the small moments of joy, and the days I break down. Stick around. If you want to here how I made last night’s dinner a little different- I’m here. If you want to get tips on how to be quiet when your daughter is live in a class in one room while your husband is on a conference call in the other, I’m here.
But if you want to complain and should, coulda, woulda….I’m probably not your best outlet.
I understand the implications of this virus. The virus is my enemy. But for my mental health…I’m making lemonade. It’s my best choice.