“I’m not sure why it should matter to you that most, men, typically, don’t spend time talking to anyone about their feelings…”
This was a comment from someone regarding my post yesterday.
So, fair point. Why does something matter to me?
To start, we need to really define what matters means, whether in this context or another. When you say something matters, what do you think it means?
Then, we really need to define “you” (which in this case would be “me”), because it all depends on which version.
Does it matter to LA the blogger, who just likes to discuss things in an open forum to see what people think, or just maybe make them think.
Does it matter to LA the person?
LA the mother?
I could keep listing these things, but you get the gist. On which level does something matter. So here are some possible answers to why this topic matters to me:
- Is the media, social or otherwise, dictating how we should think and act?
- Why would we let outside influences sway our thoughts before we’ve had a chance to think them out?
- Have we really evolved as people if the ideals of men and manhood are the same as they were 75 years ago?
- Would communication between male and female partners be better if men were more open to conversation?
- Would there be less divorce if men and women were able to communicate better?
- Would the worlplace enviornment be less toxic if me and women were given more range to understand one another on different levels?
- Is it wrong to stereotype men into a group that shows less emotion?
- Is a patriarchal society to blame for how men act or are depicted?
- Is the hunter/gatherer model still applicable in 2020?
- Would there be less violence against women if men were shown how to handle their emotions properly?
- Would there be less violence in general if men weren’t expected to “be a man”?
- Would the numbers of suicide decrease?
- Would there be less dependency and addiction issues?
- More fathers staying with their children instead of leaving them?
- Strong role models to teach their children how to behave and how to treat others?
- Less bullying for not being a “regular guy”?
- More openness in men going into professions that have normally been held by women?
- Enable men to speak up if they see a man not treating a woman properly because they won’t be chastised for breaking the bro code?
I could probably keep listing them, but these are the first that come to mind.
So when asked why it matters, I have to wonder, well what does matter? And that’s a question that every individual needs to ask themselves. What matters to you? What are the issues that make you stop and think, make you take action?
Personally, everything matters to me. Big or small, every detail, idea and nuance matters to me on some level. I have the ability to blog every day because there is nothing that doesn’t interest me on some level. I love when I get comments that make me stop and think because allows me to explore a path that I didn’t really know existed until someone said it. Every idea matters to me.
But I guess, instead of writing a whole blog about why it does matter, I could have just asked:
Why doesn’t it matter?