Last week I had lunch with one of my good friends. We talked. And talked. Talking…we ended up spending at least two hours hunkered over a table at a fast casual restaurant and it didn’t take us that long to eat our Israeli specialties. Then we walked around and window shopped, and talked. Then we went for hot beverages. And talked…
Is it stereotypical to say that women talk more? Or is it just a fact? Even introverts will talk on and on given the right parameters…
Hold that thought…
What did we talk about, you ask.
Movies, books, plays, art/museums. We are both really into all of these things, so there was much chatter about what we’ve done and what we think. My guess is we talked about clothes and beauty products. And we also talked about our families, friends, thoughts and emotions and feelings.
Is it stereotypical to say that women talk about feelings more?
At one point in the conversation, we actually talked about men and talking about “things”. We are both married to guys are similar in certain ways (there jobs are even similar, which given that it’s sort of a niche thing, it’s just sort of bizarre) And neither of our husbands is big on the feelings conversation. My Husband can spend a night out with friends, and learn absolutely nothing personal about the guys unless you consider their opinion on seasonal sporting events personal.
My friend had remarked: “I think it’s changing though. My nephew seems to be more able to discuss feelings and emotions.” She stopped for a moment. “I think.”
So- our first talking point of the day:
Are women naturally more emotive than men?
Which leads us to:
Does society still expect men to be MEN?
Are the young men of todays generation more apt to be more feelings/emotion driven?
Nature vs nurture: Are feelings based people just born that way, or are parental/societal expectations the driving force for what we think, say, act and reveal?
Can we fairly say that one sex is better than the other at emotions?
Can someone be a “feeling” type of person, but still have no desire to discuss it with anyone?
So I’ve thrown a lot of questions at you today. What do you think about any, or all, of what I’ve touched on?