I’m relatively green when it comes to the world of Instagram: I haven’t really learned the code of conduct as to how we act and what we do and so on. Social networks have rules and etiquette that weren’t found in Emily Post. So I freely admit, I’m not quite sure what to do, but I keep chugging along.
The avatar I use for this blog, as well as the title, are what I use on Insta. I know- I’m really creative…and really, they’re not exactly a siren call for sex…
A few weeks ago someone liked my pic. Fine. I liked their pic back.
Isn’t this how insta works? The insta quid quo pro? (Please- tell me if this is not what you do on a sight that has like buttons)
Well, after I liked the pic, Marco sent me a private message- Hi- How are you…something like that…
I ignored it. (we’ve discussed this before- not replying to people who you don’t have any interest in talking to)
Next day- another hi.
Next day: Why aren’t you talking to me. You liked my picture.
Me, obviously a woman who just assumes that she should apologize for something wrote back – Sorry, I didn’t know what the protocol was. I didn’t realize that liking a pic equated wanting to talk to someone.
To which he went on for a paragraph about himself, as if he was trying to pick me up at a bar
To which I responded- I’m not on insta as a dating service. I just want to be a better photographer and do this challenge.
Him: Then why did you like my picture?
Him: You shouldn’t like pictures if you don’t want to talk to someone. That’s not how it works.
Me to myself- WTF as I block him…
Are some men afraid to comment on women’s posts because they don’t want to be seen as harassers?
Do women block out men because they don’t want to do what I just did?
J added in comments yesterday that she has blocked guys because she thought they were creepy. While I’ve never felt the need to do that on my blog, I’ve done it twice on insta (which I get isn’t a lot, but to want to chat me up based on my avatar and challenge pics is pretty desperate…)
But maybe that’s the thing: My avatar is just an average woman with glasses- (which my daughter states is actually a pretty good representation of what I actually look like- so good that she thought I used a photo of myself and put it through an avatar simulator, as opposed to designing it myself). My blog title states that I am over 50. Would some men assume I am a lonely, depressed woman of a certain age just waiting to be chatted up by Marco who is originally from Israel and now resides in Florida and likes long walks at sunset?
Do men think of social media as “dating” websites?
Do women think of social media as “dating websites”?
Have you ever been creeped out by a blogger of the opposite sex?
Blocked a blogger of the opposite sex?
What’s your opinion on the creep factor?