One of the running goals of my life has been to become more mindful. The catch is, it has to be my sort of mindful: which means pragmatism and skepticism must intersect with all the positivity. I’m never going to be an earth goddess in flowing robes, the scent of patchouli clinging to my hem as I float through life… I will just be a run of the mill urban goddess with black clothing and the smell of Jo Malone and city streets clinging to my black pumas.
So how do I merge the woman who often moves right past the roses with the one who should occasionally stop and smell them?
Well, if you’re me, you put it in your planner.
- Every day write a list of things that you are grateful for, make you calm, and your highlights
- Choose a daily word, something that encapsulates mood or tone or feeling
- Keep a vision book
- Write about gratitude on Saturdays- holds you accountable
- Take pictures of some of the good moments in life
- Take pictures with a thematic purpose and post them every day
- Start the day by meditating MY way- which means to just sit for five minutes and try my best to NOT THINK
- After quiet non thinking, read a few pages that will ease me into my day and give with motivation and calm
- Vow to come up with two more things so I hit an even 10
What does all this really mean?
Being mindful means appreciating what you have. Being mindful means taking the time to appreciate what you have. Don’t be wasteful of the bounty before you whether it means something you own or a quality that you have. Highlight your strengths: work with or around your weaknesses. Figure out who you were, who you are, who you want to be.
It means that you must build in self care into your day.
Pushing pause on the remote control of your life.
I have always been someone who is perpetually in fast forward- 2x, 3x, 4x… and before you know it you are at the end… The end comes fast enough- why do we want to speed it up?
I am trying to figure out ways to make me STOP during the day, yet gives me the freedom to still be me.
How do I stay me, yet better and more mindful?
I am stopping to take pictures. I am learning all the different setting on my camera and stopping to take the time to play with them, create different types of shots. My photo challenge is giving me something to look for every day, a theme. This has been the great equalizer for me: I’m still thinking, because I’m looking for something to catch the weekly theme, but I’m not thinking a million random thoughts: I am hyper focused on finding lines or triangles or light…it’s out of my comfort zone sort of thinking…
Then there’s my weekly highlights pictures: By pausing when I’m doing something, I’m reinforcing how much I enjoy certain things: book clubs and movies and art and food (though most of these pics are taken with my sub par phone camera) I need to stop and focus when I’m taking a picture: by physically stopping I am putting myself in the moment: I am allowing myself to stop and reflect upon the moment. Taking a moment is going out of my comfort zone…
It feels nice to pause, even if it’s only for a few seconds.
It feels nice to venture a little out of my comfort zone…