I joined Instagram a year ago, but I never really found my stride. This year I decided I would do a photo challenge: the one I found has a weekly theme. This has been a lot of fun so far. I am a hands on person: I learn by doing not from reading (which is sort of ironic because I read so much, one would think I’m a learner via that conduit but who knows how the brain works, especially mine…) so I’m starting to understand how this whole photography thing works…(kinda, sorta)
Instagram challenge. So I followed the hashtags that the challenge coordinator wants to use, which has brought me a few new followers, who I in turn have followed.
But here’s the thing. Most people are content just “liking” someone’s pictures, with the occasional public comment about how pretty or cool or whatever adjective sums up the picture…
Do men (or women- let’s have equality in this moment) assume that woman who post pictures on the instagram want to be chatted up in a Dm- or IM- or whatever private messages are called?
So I received a private message last week on insta from someone who followed me (OK- when you say you have followers it does sound sort of weird and cultish and I have Eyes Wide Shut visions all of a sudden).
And some random guy sent a how are you message followed by a what’s up message.
Ok- that’s nice, but he gave me no indication that he knows my from the blog, so I ignored it. Not that I’m anti friend making, but I usually choose my friends based on some mutual interest, and both of us posting pics on Instagram is not quite enough of a common denominator.
The next day I was on insta posting a pic and he sent me another message, the emoji for writing, (ok really- are we twelve or cavemen? Just write the words…)
And I ignored him again.
So my fellow bloggers and instagrammers, what is the proper protocol for handling a person who private messages you when you have no interest in following them back?
- respond playfully
- respond tersely
- block the person
And the greater question:
Why do people start conversations with strangers online. especially a vehicle like Instagram which is all about the pictures? (or…is that the draw- he figures if I post a picture about lines, I’ll eventually post pictures of my lines?)
Does he really think a writing emoji is going to turn me on so much I’ll start to scribe dirty little somethings?
Do you ever just “say hi” to someone on a social media platform with no reference to anything posted? Like, no comment about a blog, or picture, or comment?
If someone randomly messages you, do you respond?
What is the protocol, the etiquette for these situations that Emily Post never dreamed of?
on a funny side note, I went to my Instagram to get the exact thing he messaged me, but he already unfollowed me…there you go…I guess he wanted to know what was behind the camera more than what I posted. Shocking…