When I was younger, my Mother bought me etiquette books (if you knew my family you’d understand how this was sort of ironic, but sort of necessary) I don’t remember what mine was called, but I clearly remember my sister being gifted “Tiffany’s Table Manner for Teens” (again- if you knew my sister you would find this laughable…)
There used to be a certain code- a certain way of doing things. Recently one of my blog friends (sorry- can’t remember who I should be crediting) wrote about how hand written thank you notes were a thing that you were just supposed to do… Of course there’s the no elbows on the table, a gentleman stands when a lady stands from the table, etc.
No one seems to pay attention to any of these conventions anymore.
Is the world a better or worse place for this? Or does it not matter at all?
But, for arguments sake, let’s say that etiquette rules DO matter. And maybe the place we need them most is on social media.
What should be the social media rules of etiquette?
- No cell phones at the table unless you’ve clearly stated a good reason why the call you may receive is vital
- No texting when you are amid conversation with another
- No posting photos of anyone without their permission
- No derogatory remarks about anyone you know, especially partners
- No passive aggressive comments in regards to anything
- No opinions unless specifically asked for opinion
- Unless you know something is a definite danger, no comments that might take away enjoyment of others
- NO SPOILERS UNLESS YOU CLEARLY STATE FIRST THAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO GIVE SOMETHING AWAY
- Share the moment you are experiencing because you think it’s wonderful, not to incite envy of others (which means- do you really need to post 50 pics of the same spot on the beach, when a few will do)
- Be mindful of the posts exclaiming the virtues of your current partner- less is more
- The internet lasts FOREVER. Be mindful that one day your grandchildren are going to be able to access those photos of spring break 2020, as are your future in laws, future partner, and future employers
- If you have broken off a relationship that has been public online, you need some sort of boiler plate comment that you are no longer with that person- first off, it saves embarrassment if you run into someone you know casually and they innocently bring up your ex. Secondly, if you are looking for a potential new mate, remember, they will see you social media history- let them know that you are as graceful an ex as you were a partner. If you loved someone and the relationship is no longer intact, have the decency to kindly state that the relationship is no more and there are no hard feelings (even if there were- the internet is not the place to air dirty laundry
- You don’t need to share everything, but once it’s out there, expect that it will come back to haunt you
So what do we think of these? Any you would omit? Clarify? Add?
What do you think the social media code of conduct should be?
I realize that I have told stories about my family that may or may not show them in a good light. But my blog is not my personal social media page. This blog is an outlet for me to share things that happen to me, the good and the bad, in hopes of furthering communication and showing that we’re all more alike than we realize, yet we are all unique individuals I think there is a big difference in how we diseminate information.