There are two things you either know about me, or should know:
- I have a tenuous relationship with social media
- I have a lot of pet peeves
So, when the two things align with one another, I get a shiver of excitement. Hence, we have todays blog….
In the limited social media that I use, I see many posts that tell the stories of perfect relationships. I see romantic dinners with arms crossed as you sip cocktails, pictures of enormous bouquets sent for ‘no reason but I was thinking of you’, loving notes of how much you mean to one another. You lay out a pictorial map of the perfect relationship. You love one another. Just look at the evidence. It’s right there in front of your nose…Every week, romantic pics. sexy pics, loving pics…
And then NOTHING
One day these photos just stop.
No more linked arm cocktails.
No more flowers.
No more I love you’s.
There’s pics of you and your dog. Pics of you at a pottery class. Pics at a sporting event.
But the partner is oddly missing…
SO what happened?
What happened to the pictures?
More importantly, what happened to the love?
So here’s my proclamation: If I must endure photos of your wonderful life, I want to see the photos of the epic fall of your relationship.
I have about five friends on Facebook who continually displayed the highs of their relationships. It was life a Hallmark movie of sappy love posts. Then one day I realized that X hadn’t posted a love pic in awhile. Then that happened with Y, then Z….
I looked at profiles….relationship status is oddly blank….and all the pics of the partner are now gone. The loves of their lives have been eliminated from the feed…
Inquiring minds want to know: what happened to your picture perfect life?
Now, I know you can say that it’s no one’s business if someone else gets divorced or ends a relationship. I get that. But once you start posting multiple pics of how amazing your partner is, your life is on the table and open to dissection.
I love seeing pictures of my friends on Facebook. I love hearing how well they’re doing at their job, or how their partners completed a triathlon, or what college their kids got into. I want to share their lives with them, cheer at the ups and console at the downs. This is good. But when does it stop being innocent sharing, and become a symbol of something else?
When someone is constantly posting how much they are in love, is it really just them trying to prove that there is love in their relationship?
Do they need to post the pictures because deep inside, they’re not sure that love is there?
Do they need others to think that they have the perfect relationship, because deep down they know they don’t?
Social media posting has become just a part of life: most people post by rote- they are not even conscious that they are doing it. But maybe take a step back and think about what you’re posting. Is it just sharing a tidbit of your life, or is there a deeper reason why you need the world to know that particular thing about you? Are you trying to prove to others how happy you are and how great your life is? Or are you trying to prove it to yourself?