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Happiness- catch up: who when where why how should be happy. We’ve been discussing various thoughts on happiness. Here we go again…

Last week I talked about my goals for the upcoming year. Many people commented on how much I was taking on. Many people wondered if I were high energy. People were wondering about the type of person who would write and execute such a list…

Me…that’s who.

I like a list. I like goals. I like tasks. I am somewhat high energy. I know this. I accept it.

Knowing and accepting this makes me happy. The key to happiness is knowing and accepting who and what you are. It’s taking your individual quirks and running with them without caring what others think.

See- that’s the thing about happiness: you might not know exactly what it is, but you can figure out what it’s not…

I get stressed if I don’t write things down. I get fidgety when I don’t have a plan. If I don’t know what’s going to happen, how it’s going to happen, I am not happy. I plain don’t sit still well… This is me. No apologies necessary. I’m quite OK with the person that I am.

Yesterday I was with my family and we were going to meet other family at a restaurant. My daughter had ordered the Via, and I asked my usual thousand questions: Is it a share? What corner is it picking us up? What’s the make of car? License? What corner is the restaurant? My family wasn’t answering any of my questions, they were mocking my need to know…though I don’t know why my daughter was in on this game, cause she’s just like me…) There lack of answers was driving me crazy. I. Was. Not. Happy.

For me, happiness is a big, pink planner. Happiness is a form that I can write weekly chores on and check them off whenΒ  completed. Happiness is having a roadmap to the day, the week, the month, the year. Happiness is having a prompt to take photos and then finding the photo. This is my happiness project. It may not be yours. But it is mine.

So here’s the thing: everyone has to figure out WHO they are. They need to figure out WHAT works for them. HOW to find happiness is completely individual: no one else can chart your particular course. WHEN you own who you are, happiness will become much more achievable. WHY? Because being true to yourself is happiness. WHERE your happiness journey starts and ends is up to you.

Know yourself.

Accept yourself.

Get happy.

On a side note, our blog friend Leslie is undergoing surgery today (cancer). Let’s send a little love and good thoughts today.




51 thoughts on “Who are You…Who …Who…

  1. In so many ways planning is what I live for, but I’m becoming more and more suspicious that karma has other ideas in mind. The more I plan, the more some energy tosses a little hiccup my way, forces me to stop and rethink or adjust. This morning, it forced me to laugh out loud at myself for thinking I had won with all my careful planning yesterday. Nothing I did yesterday matters now as I prep for work. There were changes overnight.
    I’m also okay with the deviation because I really have no choice.
    Will I try to plan again, and again, and again? It’s my nature so I expect so, but I can also clearly see the irony in all of it πŸ˜‰

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    1. I totally get that…what’s the saying, we plan, God laughs….. but personally, the more in control I am allows me to be better in an emergency because I tend to expect the worst…..if I can write it down, I can figure it out

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  2. Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” …
    I like that you like who you are and what makes you happy.
    I’m good at the planning part, but also a procrastinator darn it. Hoping the best for leslie

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  3. I have begun to use a planner. I feel better and more in control. I used to fly by the seat of my pants but that wasn’t working for me anymore. I have a planner and a money/budget planner. I’m more organized. Maybe that will be my word for.next week. Organized.

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  4. Yes, yes, yes to planners. I ordered a custom one from Plum Paper again this year. It has room for my creative side plus a task list πŸ™‚ I know I have to keep both sides of my brain happy. Thinking good thoughts for Leslie!

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  5. I’m about a 50/50 planner vs. fly by the seat of my pants kind of person. There are certain things that absolutely need to be planned, but others, I really need to just go with the flow. It really drives my more organized family batty sometimes. That ability to be spontaneous and follow the need to do something on the fly is so much a part of who I am. I chafe when things get too structured and ordered. It also drives me nuts when the things that need to be organized and planned aren’t. I think my Hubby is still working out which things fall into what areas all these years later. As I love to tell him, life is never boring with me around.

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  6. πŸ™‚ Yes I’ve been thinking about Lesley today, she used to make me laugh by writing rather long comments on my more questionable (sexually sexist) postings πŸ˜€ …….. mind you I deserved the telling’s off!

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  7. Hugs to Leslie!πŸ€—πŸ€—

    You seem to know/accept who you are better than many people. I still spend too much mental energy berating myself for certain lacks of accomplishment or other such thing. Working on it!

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  8. As long as you are self-secure in who you are, there is not need to apologize to anyone! There are people who need to plan and then there are those who prefer to just “wing it.” Balance is the key so neither trait takes over completely. I applaud all your goals. We are given a finite amount of time on this earth and should accomplish things of significance while we’re here! I wish you all the best for a productive…and organized….2020!! xoxox

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    1. It’s not so much as an apology as in a reminder that diversity means diversity in all areas. I think we forget that sometimes. And until we all embrace our uniqueness, we’ll never achieve anything


  9. Thanks for the reminder about Lesley! I loved her post about entering the operating theater like a brave, bold, regal actress.

    As to happiness: I’m with you. I realized, in reading your thoughts, that I chasten myself for the failing of agitation at lack of details and control.

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  10. Hope your friend comes through surgery well. I too am a planner, but I am learning to let small things go, not easy. I mean one of my jobs had Planner in the title. Loved that job! I made my own planner this year and so far it is working and evolving. I will be writing a blog on it soon, stay tuned.

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  11. I very much agree. We are all individuals. I don’t like planning everything out, but you do. So we’re different but we each know who we are. Opposites are good a lot of times and work well together. If we ran a business, I’d let you do the planning. Great! I don’t have to! Haha. Different strengths can combine to be highly productive. Awesome post!

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  13. Great philosophy! Embrace who you are and be less judgmental of others for the way they are. If we were all the same, it would be an awfully boring world. Three years into retirement and life is good.

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