“You make me so happy”
I told my daughter that if anyone ever says those words to her she is to run. Just run. Run far and run fast.
You can not make someone happy. You can make them miserable, but you can not make anyone happy.
As Janie commented earlier in the week, happiness comes from inside- no one, and I mean no one can make you happy. They may do things that bring you joy, or make you momentarily happy, but they can’t make you essentially happy…
But what is happiness?
I’ve thrown this word around a lot this week, but we haven’t really defined it. The problem is, it’s one of those indefinable words that means different things to different people. In order to be happy, you have to think about what it is that you want in life.
What do you want in life that will make you happy?
For me, happiness is a book (preferably good). Hot, sweet tea. Comfy clothes. Health. A hand to hold (I know this one seems contradictory, but it can be literally any hand- even a mannequin hand). A roof over my head and floors beneath my feet. Fresh delicious food. Music.
I do not look to others for my happiness.
And neither should you.
If you are not happy with yourself, with who you are, it is impossible to be happy with someone else. No one has the key that turns on your inner light- only you do. And remember- telling someone else that they are the reason for your happiness is a lot of pressure. Do you want to be responsible for someone else’s happiness? What does making someone happy even entail? Does it mean you can’t make a mistake? That you need to be perfect? Can anyone ever live up to being an ideal?
If your goal is to be happy, you first need to define what it means to you. Then you just have to do it. But don’t expect someone else to provide you happiness….it’s just not how it works.
Do your own brand of happy….