John and Jane Doe are married.
Jane Doe goes to the Doctor for her annual check up and finds out she has a disease. She makes appointments with specialists and reads up on the illness. She finds a Doctor that she likes and is confident with the treatment plan that is put before her.
John Doe is not a Doctor. John Doe has never had this illness, nor know much about it. John Doe does some internet searching and determines that he likes a different course of treatment. He wants Jane Doe to do something other than what she likes.
Is it HER life and choice?
Is it THEIR life and choice?
How much say does your spouse have in a medical decision and course of treatment?
Once you have discussed the options with your partner, and family if wanted, how much do you take other people’s feeling/wishes into account?
Do you choose a course of action you’re not comfortable with to please your partner?
How much does your partner matter in the decision making regarding your course of treatment?
Is the expectation that the decision should be made as a unit? Or should it be made by the individual undergoing the treatment?
Does John Doe have the right to be disappointed if Jane Doe doesn’t listen to him regarding her treatment?
How much should John Doe push Jane Doe into doing what he wants?
Does your opinion change at all if John and Jane Doe are not married, but just living together?
What does being a partner mean if one is ill?
Disclaimer: This is a hypothetical situation and is NOT happening to me. I’m just trying to get a handle on the topic we’ve been discussing as to how partners treat and respect one another, and how we handle expectations and disappointment, and obviously, agree or disapgree on things.