Over the past few weeks, I’ve written about some job related issues. I’ve complained about the new short term economic goals, and while some agree with my analysis, others did not. The people that understand and appreciate the new ethos of pick up and leave, jump from job to job, there is no such thing as stability camp were shouting the virtues of living a happy life. Do what you want because you shouldn’t be beholden to a job. Life’s too short: you need to live.
Ok. For today’s discussion, let’s assume that these people are right. As working for a corporation, or even a steady 9-5 job can be soulless, and frankly, hard to achieve, we’ll go with jobs should be secondary to life.
Why are stay at home Moms (SAHM) brutalized?
I was a SAHM. In a world where anything goes, why was I given grief about being “just a Mom”?
As TJ pointed out last week, she stated that she always wanted to be a Mom. That was the career she always wanted. She said it almost apologetically though, like, I know it sounds funny, but this is what I wanted.
Why is Mom as a “profession” or “career” not as respected as other things?
Directly, or indirectly I’ve been referred to as lazy, stupid and lacking ambition. The question I have been asked the most is not “How are You”, but “So, what do you do all day.” Because apparently, being a Mom is easy, doesn’t take much time, doesn’t require one to think, and should not even vaguely considered a job.
Why do people take delight in belittling those who chose to stay at home?
Why does your worth as a person still depend on what you do?
Do we automatically respect some jobs while we disrespect others?
I never felt the need to defend my status as a SAHM. I made a choice to do what I thought was the right solution for me and my family. My choice, my decision, no one else’s business.
Yet…..people judged me.
I got snide looks as I showed up to school with cupcakes for the bake sale, or volunteered for field trips, or worked on executive committees for PTA. “Must be nice to have the time”. To this day, people will still say to me, “Well of course your daughter is a good student, you only have one kid and you were home with her all the time. With that situation, any kid would be good.” Really?
Why do people feel the need to make themselves feel better by putting others down?
Why do people think that being a SAHM is easy?
Why do people care so much about what others are doing, assuming it’s legal and ethical?