One of the themes that has emerged the last few days is that sometimes you need to follow your dream career path in order to be happy. Now, finding a career, fulfilling your dream, and being happy are all mutually exclusive. Today, I’m going to give you a peak into dream filling.
Person A decides they want to be an actor. They study acting in college. They graduate and get a job at a restaurant (to pay the bills) and they hit the pavement in search of acting jobs. They occasionally find work, but are far from having a fulfilling acting career that pays the bills. After a few years they decide to go to graduate school to study acting. When they graduate they once again find employment, but it is sporadic and make their living as a babysitter. Person A is now 35, but they are still holding out for their dream job. They share a small apartment with four people (not related to them). Babysitting is not job that they want to be going to every day. They spend money on their looks, because after all, acting is a glamour job, and you need to be glamourous.
Are they happy? Is the dream worth fighting for? The answer resides in the heart of this individual who is keeping at it.
Person B decides they want to be an actor. They go to college to study acting. After college they move in with their parent and get a waitressing job. Auditions and parts are few and far between. After a few years of this, Person B decides that what they really want is their ow apartment and a family. So they put the character shoes away and exchange them for the character shoes of a person in the 9-5 work a day world. They find a job with a good salary and good benefits and begin to be able to save money.
Are they happy? Did they give up? Or did their dream just change?
Person C decides that they want to be a rock star. After high school they and bandmates buy a cheap van, and start touring and playing gigs wherever they can. They reach a moderate level of success- they are able to pay their way as musicians. They release a few albums. They are living the dream. Sort of. Because they never become rock stars, which was really their dream, not the reality of playing small venues and then morphing into a wedding band. Person C eventually puts down the guitar and cuts their hair, thinks that college might have been a better path, because being a failed rock star is pretty lousy.
Are they happy? Would it have made a better dream than a reality? Was not living up to what was envisioned just too hard?
Do you follow your dream?