We’ve discussed asking parental permission to wed. But as Laura pointed out, how important is it to ask the children of your intended for permission to marry their parent?
Many have seen the commercial (I can only assume it’s for rings) where you see a serious faced man asking the question- May I marry her- and then the camera pans to a little boy, who shakes his head up and down.
But what if the kid were to shake their head side to side?
How important is it for a potential stepparent to get along with their stepkids?
How many relationships are ruined or complicated by the step dynamic?
If you’ve ever watched “This is Us”, you know that the adult Kevin character has issues with his stepdad, even though his Mother didn’t remarry till she was older, and my all accounts, the stepdad is a great guy and loves the Mom. I’m betting, that if he’d been asked, Kevin would have stood on the mountain top screaming “Hell No. You are not marrying my Mother.” But this is a TV show.
What happens in real life?
What if your kids don’t like the person you want to marry?
Do you still marry them?
I know that there are many cases of step parents and step kids having amazing relationships. On a Father’s Day episode of The Chew, chef Michael Symon’s stepson made a speech about him that was so endearing and explained the biology doesn’t matter part so beautifully that everyone was crying. Recently, a college football player legally changed his name to reflect that of his stepfather and showed his stepdad the new jersey with the new name printed on the back. Cue the tears.
But do we hear about these moments because they are rare?
If your kids don’t like the person you want to marry, do you do it anyway?
How important is it for you kids to like your intended spouse?