My Goddaughter came to visit me this weekend. She is the daughter of one of my closest friends. All I can say is that she was an adorable little girl, and has turned into an amazing young woman. My friend is awesome, so I’m not totally surprised that she has three equally incredible daughters…
At some point today I will text my friend and tell her how much fun I had with her child. I will tell her that she did a great job as a Mom.
Did you ever notice that when a child/young adult does something bad or questionable, blame immediately goes to the parents? What were the parents thinking? What did they do wrong? How could a parent do that? Someone does something bad, and everyone looks to the parents. Bad=Nurture
If you see a “good” kid, everyone says the parents got “lucky”. Good=Nature
Why are we so quick to blame the parents when things go wrong, but never give them credit when things go “right”?
When someone decides to have a child, they think about boy or girl, or how to decorate the nursery, and all the cute clothes and accessories that the baby “requires”. They read books about what to do while they’re pregant- how to sleep, what to eat, etc. No one is actively thinking about what comes next.
Parenting is hard. Being a parent is the toughest job in the world. It is also thankless. No one ever says you are/were a good parent.
So, let’s stop blaming parents who have kids who might not always choose the path that is “more right”. And acknowledge that maybe some parents made a “more right” choice on the bumpy parenting road.