I have a “go down swinging” philosophy. As of last night, the Mets have a less than 1% chance at getting an NL wild card spot, yet I’m still firmly in the believer camp. I think if there’s a shot, you stay with it.
If you’ve been reading me for awhile, you know I have passed to tradition on to my daughter. You try, if you fail you pick yourself back up and try again. Last December she got deferred from her first choice college (which was Harvard, I’ll state that now) she wrote a letter restating her interest and including all the things she had done since her application had been submitted. And them she applied to a whole bunch of other schools. She still wanted to go there, but she knew it wouldn’t be the end of the world if she didn’t get in.
Which it wasn’t. She got into two of her top five choices, spent a month in decision hell, and ended up choosing a school that quite honestly, was and is the absolute best choice for her.
But I digress slightly.
My daughter is and has always been a joiner. Ever since she donned her first Little League uniform at age five, she has been all about clubs. lessons and teams. Her college has a plethora of activities, but since it is a university full of joiners, you need to apply to many of them. And when I say apply, I mean APPLY. She had applications with three or four short answer questions and needed to include a resume. If they approved your application, there was then an interview. My daughter has spent much of September writing and interviewing.
As of this moment in time (and the past ten years) my daughter has dreamed of being a lawyer. She actually loves the law- loves how different people interpret things, the loopholes, etc. So naturally she is looking into clubs where she can nurture this love, and her college has a few. A few of them have no application process, so she just signed on the dotted line. The higher profile clubs have applications, because they have a maximum number of participants that can join. My daughter applied to two of them and got into one of them which is awesome. I relayed this info to one of my friends, but I added the caveat: She really wanted Club X, but didn’t get it. But she’s more than OK with club Y.
And my friend said “Well, she can always apply to Club X next year.”
This is an entirely true statement. My daughter can always apply to this club again next year. But a spot of Club Y is a pretty amazing accomplishment. And I stated this to my friend, to which she responded:
“So she’s giving up?”
Here’s my question: Is it giving up to not apply again? Is it acceptance of what’s in front of you? Is it rationalizing? Or is it just realizing that both clubs are great experience, and still give her a chance to explore something that she loves?
When is something quitting?
Is giving up always a bad thing?
Is it giving up to decide to go a different route because it’s just as good?
Am I rationalizing because it’s my daughter and I think she’s perfect?