When I first thought about the topic for this week, things that affect you, I naturally assumed I would be talking about my ill fated first marriage at some point. But as I thought about the that this morning, I realized that that particular topic would probably require about a month of blogs. So today’s blog has taken a different path…

Every single thing you do in your life, waking up ten minutes late, waking up ten minutes early, has an impact on your life. The thing is, all these actions seem inconsequential at the time because mainly it’s just going about you day, doing the things you do every day, a rote action. And when we do things by rote, we just do them.  We do not attach any significance to them.

Obviously, becoming pregnant, moving during one’s formative years, getting married are going to change you. These are big moments. The whole purpose behind things like this are to change you, change your surroundings, change your life, change your future.


This doesn’t mean that the small things don’t change us significantly as well. My deciding not to be an accountant coupled with my having taken French in high school led me to meet my college friends. Driving my younger sister and her friends to a movie allowed me to meet the Father of one of her friends who gave me an internship which led me to my first career. Deciding to get a tennis rating would introduce me to my future doubles partner who would eventually introduce me to my second husband. Sitting next to K in writing class would lead to her forming a writing group and help me complete and revise (still revising!) my novel.

Every single thing we do leads us to an opportunity. Every single decision we make has the possibility of changing the whole course of our lives. Who knows: maybe one day you send an email and it changes the very fabric of your world…

The Road Not Taken

By Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.\

Everything matters. Even if it seems insignificant, every decision you make snowballs into the next. Live intentionally. Live gratefully. Be aware of the good things. Take steps to change the not so good ones. You have the ability to change the road you travel on at any time, if you want. You also have the ability to stay on the same path. What you do, or don’t do, matters.

It all matters.

26 thoughts on “They’re All Big Things

  1. This is a great reflection on this week’s posts and so very accurate. Everything does have an impact rather we realize it or not. This topic can easily diverge into a discussion of fate/destiny versus free-will/choice. Are we making our own future, or is it already set for us?!
    The Robert Frost poem…a longtime favorite 🙂

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  2. I also try not to regret what I say or do. Yes, I’ve ticked people off. I’m human. The point is a change of perspective. As I’ve gotten older, I realize that most people live a long time and that you will likely run into them again. The internet helps that a bit, but so does the fact that people know each other and are connected -especially if you keep working in the same field or living in the same area.

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