“All other types need not apply.”
That’s what a lot of you are afraid of, isn’t it? That once you know a little bit about personality traits you will start basing all your decisions on it? That you will snap judge that if someone is X type you can’t be friends with them, or they won’t be friends with you?
Are you afraid of judging based on one criteria alone?
I get that. I really do.
But I want you to think about this: do you meet everyone with an equal open mind? All the time?
As bloggers, we often find ourselves having people follow us. Have you ever said “Why would a person of A age, who lives in B, and enjoys C like my blog?”
Now, I know that there are people who will just follow anyone in hopes of being followed back, so we’re always wary. But isn’t being wary judging?
Have you gone on a date with every person that asked you?
Have you talked to every single person who has ever started a conversation with you?
Have you ever seen someone and made a judgement about them? Seriously- have you ever decided you did or didn’t like someone based solely on looks or what they wore?
If you have ever done any of these things, haven’t you pretty much based a decision on one thing only?
We were in Utah on vacation once, and we went to a show. The MC asked where people were from, and we were the only New Yorkers, and from the city no less. Let’s just say, we were not the most popular people at that rodeo. We were judged solely on the geographic location where we chose to live.
I don’t know. I’d rather not be liked cause I’m an ISTJ-A. At least you can quantify a personality trait that you don’t like, then just a look or a feeling.
And what about the whole introvert thing. Even without taking a Myers Briggs, most people can peg an introvert. And I’m betting most introverts have heard the following at school. “You really need to participate more.” Because apparently extroverts are smarter… I recently had a conversation with a friend. He told me it “wasn’t good” that my daughter was an introvert, because apparently she’ll never succeed in life. Hmmm. I don’t need to know what combo of letters he is to know that I don’t want to talk to him.
So here’s the thing. I don’t think you should introduce yourself saying your letters. That’s just silly. But don’t be surprised if people see these qualities in you anyway. Don’t you think that there are people that don’t like me because I come across as a know it all? Because I express my opinions unequivocally? Because I take a stand and defend it? They are never going to give me a chance because they don’t like that one trait….