Perfect is a lovely word.
Perfect is also an overused word, because perfection is rare. How often is anything actually perfect?
Now let’s move onto another P word: Pinterest. I’m a little obsessed with Pinterest. I love looking at how to lists, and pictures of closets and organizing tips. I love the pictures, which frankly, are perfect. But there’s also the reality: these photos are choreographed and staged. Who knows how many cakes were made before the picture was finally taken? Who knows if it’s actually a cake? What we see looks perfect, but we really don’t know, do we?
The final P word: Parent.
When did we decide that parents were supposed to be pinterest perfect?
Here’s the deal: as a parent you are going to make mistakes. You are going to make a lot of mistakes. And even if you don’t think you made any mistakes, your child might think differently. Remember, my Daughter told me I was too nurturing because I make her breakfast. See, I thought making her breakfast was a good thing. Who knew it would be my parenting flaw…
Stop thinking you need to be perfect. Stop thinking you will go eighteen years without making a mistake. Stop thinking that everyone is doing it better than you. As stated, appearances are deceiving.
Here’s my basic advice:
- Keep them healthy- exercise, good food options, sleep
- teach them the benefits of hard work
- stress that they should do their best, not anyone else’s best
- embrace whatever they are passionate about and help them reach their dreams
- remind them that they are special to you
- Remind yourself that you are doing the best job you can at being a parent
- Own your mistakes when you make them and rectify them
- don’t worry about what everyone else is doing: who’s to say that what they’re doing is right
- delete pinterest
Parenting is not a social media photo op. It’s a really hard job that has absolutely no glamour- it’s like fighting a war in the trenches. If you think things are going to be perfect you will be setting yourself up for a lifetime of failure. Be confident that YOU are doing the best job for YOUR child. And it doesn’t have to be perfect.